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E119: Straight Talk with Danny Creed – Part 3 of 4

January 4, 2024


How do you approach sales in today's changing landscape, focusing on being genuine, adaptable, and knowing when to say 'no' to create lasting connections and drive success?


This is part three of the conversation I had with Danny. 

In Part 3, Danny and I talk about:


  • Not everyone is your customer
  • Being authentic
  • Being transparent
  • Your prospects aren’t stupid just because they don’t buy from you



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Danny’s Info:

Real World, Master Business Coach Danny Creed is an international master business and executive coach, business consultant; trainer, best-selling author, international keynote and workshop speaker and experienced entrepreneur and business owner. (www.realworldbusinesscoach.com). He is a recognized expert in sales, management, and start-up business strategic planning. He is a business turnaround and marketing specialist with a strong emphasis on business and personal development.

Danny is a 
Brian Tracy International Certified Business Coach and Sales Trainer. Coach Dan has logged to date nearly 15,000 business coaching, consulting and training hours. He has been involved with 15 successful start-up businesses and over 400 business turnaround challenges. Dan commits himself to over 200 hours of continuing education to enhance his coaching skills. Coach Dan is the SIX-time recipient of the FocalPoint International Brian Tracy Award of Sales Excellence.

Danny Creed is a published author. His first book, BOOTSTRAP BUSINESS, was a collaborative effort with world-renowned business development experts, Tom Hopkins (How to Master the Art of Selling), John Christensen (FISH!) and Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup for the Soul). His second, 
A Life Best Lived; A story of Life, Death and Second Chances is available worldwide on Amazon.com and Audible at http://www.businesscoachdan.com/author/

Danny Creed’s next books, 
Straight Talk on Surviving and Thriving in Business and Straight Talk on Finding Customers: The Champions Network, are planned for a Christmas 2019 release. He is also widely published in numerous magazines around the world including Business Coach Magazine, serving all of Eastern Europe and Business Venezuela, the magazine of the Venezuelan American Chamber of Commerce.

  • Show Transcript

    Jason: Welcome back to the sales experience podcast. My name is Jason Cutter. You are about to listen to part three of my conversation with Danny Creed. This is part three in a four-part mini-series where we’re just on a roll. If you’re starting with this one, make sure to listen to episode one and episode two in this mini-series guest conversation, whatever you want to call it with Danny and I.


    Jason: It’s funny because both in this section and the next one I talk about how I wanted to cover some questions that I normally would ask and I just fail because we were having such a great time going through everything and we cover it any way in those topics. So enjoy part three. And uh, yeah, that’s it.


    Danny: And when I’m asking you say, can we sit down and talk a little bit, you know, and let’s find out together if it makes sense that we should work together because I’m not right for everyone. So can I ask you three questions to see if it makes sense that we should work together or not? And I’m telling you, I’ve had big tough guys when I say I’m not right for everyone. They turn around and go, what do you mean you’re not right for me. And then I, you know, it’s just like, okay, that’s dialogue, man.


    Jason: Well, and I think when being honest if you’re selling something of any value where there’s an ideal person, right? So going back to conversations about knowing who you should be talking to and who you should be selling to, there. And I’m talking, you know, and we’re talking specifically about or to those kinds of sales organizations, not the one where everybody wins. You talk to anybody with a pulse and you’re selling your widget, right? So we’re talking about more specific is that if there’s somebody ideally who you want to sell to, there’s also somebody who’s not a good fit. Like actually, no, and it’s funny because in my upcoming book that I’m writing, it feels like you still one of my chapters, but uh, in mine I actually have a chapter about the power of saying no and leveraging that and how, you know, if you’ve got someone and they’re not a good fit, it’s not going to happen.


    Jason: And not like a money excuse or I need to talk to my spouse or my business partner. I mean like, you know, I sell this and it’s not a good fit because you don’t, you know, you’re not going to do well with it or succeed, is tell them no and that saying no will, A.) blow their mind and your manager may freak out at first, but it’s really the best thing. And then it gives you the mental power and the ability that when you say yes, you mean it. Because if it wasn’t a yes, you would say no. And when it’s a yes, then we’re going to make this thing happen. Right. And so it’s so interesting when I tell that to reps and I say, if it’s not a good fit, like I don’t want you to push a square peg into a round hole, it’s going to create crap for customer service and fulfillment and the business and whatever. So just don’t do that. And now they’re like, “are you sure? Is that okay?” I’m like, “yeah,” your goal is not to sell 100% to a 100% to the people you talk to. It’s never like that.


    Danny: They’ll appreciate that and they’ll bring it back around though. You’ll get something at some point cause they’ll start looking for ways to work with you. You know, I would rather be, you know, I’ve worked with a long time to say in today’s world there is no reality. There’s only the perception of reality. Which means everything from how do you present yourself in sales? How do you walk in the door? Positive. You walk in the door, look good, good look on your face again. You’ve mentioned something earlier. I don’t have to be the smartest guy in the room. I just have to be a last best question. So smart as questions, you know, cause I’ll learn as we go. But how do people perceive you when you walk in the door? They’ll create a perception if you’re listening, if you don’t care or positive, if you’ll respect their time.


    Danny: If you say no, you know, they’ll respect that and they’ll want to work with you. That’s selling to, you’re selling a perception. You know, my idea and perception was when I walked in the room, I might, be brand new at this. When I walk into a room and I want people to go, “I don’t know what he’s selling, but I want some just because of how I look and how I walked and how I handled myself, how I eat, breathe, and you know, and just, and you know how myself in front of people, people want, they’re attracted to people who they feel like they can respect.” You know, again, that comes back to listening and knowing your product and just working hard.


    Jason: And one part I don’t talk about as much as I probably should, especially on the podcast and in general. But I think going with all that, like when you walk into the room, how do you carry yourself? Everybody’s different. But the one thing I found that’s very common in successful salespeople in any realm as a professional is authenticity, which goes back into that telling people “no”. When you walk in a room and you authentically care or you’re on the phone call and you authentically care about that person, you’re asking the questions, you’re listening, like we’re talking about, you’re taking that information and responding appropriately and not charismatic over the top storytelling monologuing schmoozing like cheesy salesperson with all the cheesy close lines. Like if you do it in an authentic way, that’s you. Unless that’s you. If that’s you, it probably works as well. But whatever’s authentic for you, selling to that person, it will always work with the right people and just be your authentic self. Trying to help others.


    Danny: Jason, I’ll go as far as to say that doesn’t work anymore. What you described.


    Jason: Oh the other, the uh, the other cheesy lines.


    Danny: Hey, you know, the razzmatazz and people don’t, I mean, look, we’ve got a society that’s, that has more information available to it than any other time in his. They don’t need that. Uh, you know, I did, was doing a workshop a while back in, one of the things I talk about is how easily can you be replaced and some people didn’t agree and I said, look, let me show you something. I just held up my phone and there was like 2000 people room and I held a microphone up and I just said to the person in there, I said, look, tell me how many heating and air conditioning describes the heating and air conditioning. How many HVAC people are there within 20 miles of where we’re standing? One, two, three beep. There was like 35. I went up and touched one. Somebody said, hi, “this is Ralph of The House Heating and Air Conditioning. How can I help you?” “Sorry, wrong number off.” I lay down and go, that’s how easy you’re replaced. People have information available so you can’t get by with it. Easy razzmatazz stuff anymore. People don’t need it. They don’t want it.


    Jason: No, they don’t fall for it. And information is the power that you know, cancels that out. Especially with the information available about a company, about a salesperson, about an organization that people can do their research from a prospect customer side and see what the reviews are. Right? You can no longer hide. You can no longer be the snake oil salesman that runs from town to town once the jig is up, right? Like the internet. There is no way to run from the internet and that’s it. Right? The only thing you can do is change businesses and start a new company under a different name and try to run that way. But that’s just a terrible life. And obviously that’s not who you and I are speaking to and who this is for. And I think it really goes back to what you said about being able to sell anything.


    Jason: Because I get that question even as a consultant where people will say, you know, business owners will say, well have you ever sold X, Y, and Z ? And I’ll be like, no, but I’ll tell him that doesn’t matter. And I’ll, you know, explain it in a little bit of an eloquent way. But in my mind I’m thinking sales is sales. Like I don’t care what you give me, I will learn enough and then I will sell it. Cause I’m gonna ask questions and leverage listening and caring and wanting to help. And I think that’s super important for anyone listening to this if you’re in sales, is to learn how to sell and learn the foundation, the fundamentals like you’re talking about. Then you can take that anywhere. You can move halfway across the world and go sell in a different country. As long as you can speak the language, then sales is sale, right?


    Danny: And you don’t even need to speak the language. You can get somebody to help you. But you know, that’s a great point. Again, it comes back to being honest. It comes back to being transparent. People don’t want it. They can smell it, they can see through it, they can look through it. And if you just come in and that’s where we’re back now to asking questions. That’s where we’re back down to getting clarity. You can sell. All I need to do is ask the right questions and people will want to work with me and they’ll buy something from me. Now again, it’s not that easy, but look it so few people do it that way for all your listeners. So few people actually practice listening, actually studied sales, you know, do that and you’re going to be so far ahead of in your industry, practice time management, understand, you know, ask lots of questions, understand listening, understand your product. I, I’m sure you have to, but I’ve sold products that weren’t number one in the market, but my passion for it, you know, my care for it people bought because I believed in it a lot of times. And that’s the key to it. And not enough people do that.


    Jason: Yeah. And I think back to the work ethic part, you know, that’s where it’s on the field, off the field and time management and task. There’s a lot of salespeople out there who feel like, okay, I made calls or I sent emails or I did so many reach outs and that was it. You know, it’s really at the end of the day, can you say you left it all on the field, right? As far as like how many hours it takes. You could be amazing and work six hours, leave it all in the field, have great results, not activity. And then that was a win. And some days you might get, you know, bloodied and beaten because you, you gave it all you could, but at least you tried and you come back another day and you know, it’s all about that effort.


    Danny: That’s the key coming back. Yeah. You know, I would say one of the, part of the key to sales is don’t take no personally. Yeah,


    Jason: Yeah. Unless, but this is the counter I have to that because you know, you got to say it with two parts. Don’t take “no” personally. Everyone’s going through their stuff. It’s not about you. Unless you suck, then it’s about you.


    Danny: That’s true. Maybe you can take “no” personally because you don’t know how to deal with it.


    Jason: Right. And you did something that caused them to say “no” that a better salesperson would have gotten them to say “yes.” And so that’s the only part. Like if you’re getting no a lot, that might be you and you need to watch the game footage there, listened to the recordings, have someone sit in on your meetings, go to your appointments with you. Cause that might be you like, you know, you and I are both pretty honest, straight shooters. Like that might be you as a salesperson and not the market, uh, or the other person having a bad day. But if you know you’re doing your process, your manager, your company, you’ve developed a sales process that you know, works enough, then don’t take the “NOs” personally.


    Danny: Yeah. I have to take a quick story. I think you and I and a lot of other friends could write a book about the crazy thing salespeople were done. I actually had a guy tell me, I was trying to analyze cause he just couldn’t close anything. And I said, so why do you think people will buy from you? He home hard around. I said, well let me ask you something. Let’s go through your process. And he went through this beautiful process of selling and then I say, so we’re down to the end. How do you feel when somebody says no? He goes, “well I tell them how stupid they are.” And I go, “no you don’t.” He goes, “yeah, I write him letters sometimes” I go, “no you don’t.” he goes, yeah, “I’ll send you some.” “Sure enough”, a lady had told him no. And he went home and he said, “thank you Mrs. Johnson for uh, looking at my presentation and I just wanted to write this letter to you to tell, tell you how, how stupid your decision was to not go with my program.”


    Danny: And then he did two more pages of why she was that stupid. So don’t blame the market. Don’t blame industry here and don’t blame anybody. But you know, the only way you get great at anything is go out and do it. Learn from it. Do it, learn from it and do it and learn from it. I mentioned earlier, there’s four steps I teach when it comes to dealing with problems and it’s what happened? Why did it happen? How will it never happen again and see you later. You know, you move on because you learned something about why it didn’t work. Why, why a technique didn’t work, why a certain question didn’t work, why saying yes or no. Right time. You know, Warren Buffet always says, I say no to almost everything. And all he means by that is, you know, I’m going to say no and I’m going to analyze it and I’m going to make a better decision. You know? So it’s back where we started. It’s back to the basics. May ask some basics. Sit down and talk to people in your industry and find out what made them successful and then copy it.


    Jason: Yeah. But, and for all the salespeople listening, if you’re listening to this is also don’t rely, this goes back to the work ethic. Don’t rely on your managers of the companies to giving you everything. It’s on you to take some responsibility if you want to make this a career. Now if you’re in sales and it’s just a job and you’re, you know you’re just showing up and it’s something you’re doing short term that’s different. But speaking to people who want to be sales professionals, you’re going to have to put in the extra work and this is where business sales profession is different than maybe the public school we were all raised in, which is you go to school, they put some information in front of you. If they give you some homework, you do it, you check the boxes and that’s it. This is different. This is your life and if you want to be successful, take some more.


    Danny: I always, I was, when I do seminars that I’ll say, look, if you really want to call yourself a sales professional, you need to get a job and work on straight commission for a while. Cause I did for a long time and there’s nothing quite like your wife meeting you at the door with a baby in her arms thing. Honey, why did you sell today? Cause we need groceries. You know, so you learn how to listen. You learn how to close, you learn how to do those things. Look, I’m not saying don’t take the biggest salary you can, right, of course. But from a management standpoint, if it’s not the smartest thing to pay your sales people salaries and no commissioner, no one says, I live for commission. You want to make more money. I don’t have to go ask anybody. I do. I sell more. You know, in even if you have a great salary and everything else, you still have to have that mentality that if I want to make more, I’m going to go out and create it.


    Jason: Alright. Hopefully you enjoyed part three of the four-part mini series with Danny Creed. Again, go to cutterconsultinggroup.com/podcast find the episode. Find Danny’s links if you want to reach out to him or read more about him or any of the things that he’s done, including the book that he’s written and the books that he has upcoming. Also, you can find the transcript of our conversation. Make sure to tune in for the next episode. Tomorrow we’re going to launch part four and the final part of the conversation with Danny. Until then, as always, remember that everything in life is sales and people remember the experience you gave them.


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The Balance of Effort in Sales The blogs this week have been about the other person going most of the way. Whether it’s a prospective customer and your salesperson, where the salesperson truly can’t want the deal or make most of it happen for that customer to truly be successful. On the path for that prospect to becoming a customer, they should go at least 51/49. Whether it’s your team and their manager, the manager can’t want the team to succeed more than the team actually wants it for themselves. It’s not scalable for the coach (manager) to run on the field every play to win the game for the salespeople. What about sales ops processes and systems? What about the tools available to the sales team and the ones that are classified as sales enablement? In a reversal of philosophy, I believe the sales ops processes should go 90, the team should only have to go 10. Why Do We Need Salespeople? Let’s start where it matters – what is the point of having salespeople? I know many owners question the need and desire to have salespeople. They are hard to manage, tough to deal with, always want more money (potentially for doing less work and closing less deals), and are very resistant to change. Of course, that is a generalization. Of course, there are salespeople who don’t check those boxes. However, having worked with a lot of teams in a lot of industries, that generalization isn’t completely wrong or unfair. So if there is even a small part of that which is accurate, why would we even mess with the messiness of having salespeople? Of needing to employ and manage humans? The Human Element in Sales We need them. That’s why. Even in 2025, AI and technology has not successfully replicated the requirements of sales – which is about helping a human (prospect/customer) make the right decision and move outside of their comfort zone to buy something new. It still takes your human (salesperson) to persuade that other human. It’s why I say all the time that its not B2B, B2C, Retail, SaaS, etc. – it’s H2H. Sure, people can buy something online or even in a store without speaking to someone. But if it’s a considered purchase where there are options and decisions to be considered – it still takes a human being involved. That means ultimately your human (salesperson) has one job, and one job only – persuade the right prospective humans to buy. Minimizing Distractions for Salespeople Everything outside of that mission, task, focus is a distraction that takes away from their highest and best use. Imagine if we had a surgeon who had to prep the room, prep the patient, schedule the surgery and meetings, and do all the parts of the surgery themselves. Nope – they show up for the surgery and do what they do best. Then they take off their gown, gloves, and walk away to get cleaned up and move on to the next thing. Your goal as a sales ops leader is to support the team with systems and processes that allow them to focus on the one thing you need them for. The human part. It would be amazing if they could show up, talk to people, and make sales happen. Of course, there is more that they (and any professional) need to do before, during, and after the sales conversation. But your goal is to minimize all that. Every hour that your salespeople aren’t selling or doing sales-related activities, they aren’t moving revenue forward. The Ultimate Goal of Sales Ops What processes can you put in place that go 90 percent of the way, where the salesperson can do the last 10 percent? An example would be building an email campaign that runs automatically, and when the right people reply, the salesperson gets involved in getting that person from email to phone call. Another example would be your CRM serving up people for the salesperson to call – leads or anyone in the sales pipeline flow – with all the backstory, research, data, intel needed for them to review it then take action. What can you put into place that takes away as much distraction and effort from your sales team such that they can focus on the one thing you need to focus on – other humans?
By Jason Cutter February 12, 2025
The Danger of Doing Too Much as a Sales Leader Alright – so maybe they don’t need to go 90. In true servant leadership mode, you would go way more than 10% of the way to your team. But you have to be careful, as a sales leader. The inclination might be to do it all for them. To help them close their sales. To make excuses for them to your leadership as to why they aren’t closing more sales. Especially considering the very high likelihood that you are a sales manager because you were a great salesperson in the role that you are now managing. And there is a slight chance that you are a player-coach…so you are leading and selling. This can make it really tough not to want to run out on the field to win the game each time. But that doesn’t scale. That doesn’t lead to increased results. You can only sell so much as one person. Creating a Culture of Ownership So, you need to have people on your team that are coming to you. What does that look like? The pinnacle is a salesperson who doesn’t close a deal, comes to you right away and asks for feedback. They want some critiques as to where they could have done things better, different that would have led to the desired result – a closed sale. That takes a healthy level of ego by a professional who has the ultimate growth mindset. They know there are always ways to improve. They want to improve. And they are willing to risk their ego (and the internal, protective, primal part of our brain that doesn’t want to risk our place in the tribe) by asking for feedback that could be negative. Whenever you can, encourage that type of response. Ensure that the team knows that the team itself, and you as their leader, is a safe space – where the goal is to improve, grow, win and that everything done to support each other is done in that mode. They truly have to feel safe to share their mistakes and to get support in learning how to do more, better. Feedback That Drives Growth Part of this takes team and individual meetings that are actually filled with positive support. That doesn’t mean it’s always positive, motivational fluff. It’s not even about the shallow strategy of the feedback sandwich. Its about being real, honest, and empathetic – meaning “I see you are here, I know you want to be there, I will help you get there – even if its hard and it means saying hard things.” It should never feel mean or abusive or like an attack. But you can give some really direct feedback that will sting that ego I mentioned, but the person will know the intent behind it. The second part is hiring this type of person. Hiring people for the team that wants to win, grow, succeed. And they know that you don’t get better by being coddled, sheltered, or protected. You want people who don’t like the thought of perpetually living safely in their comfort zone. And they are excited about the opportunity to be a part of a team that pushes everyone, empathetically, outside of their comfort zone. Are You Leading or Just Managing? If you find yourself as a leader having to push your team, or going to them most of the time, or most of the way mentally – then they see you as a manager not a leader. They see you as someone who manages them, pushes them, and wants them to do things they don’t want to do. I have written some blogs here that go into what your role should be – as a leader, not a manager. Pulling people along with you, inspiring people, and supporting yourself with a team of people who want to win. Not just those that want to show up, do as little as they can and hopefully go unnoticed (yet – complain about not making enough money and how the comp plan isn’t fair, or the leads are bad, or their schedule means they can’t be successful.) Make sure your team knows that they need to come to you – at least 51/49. They should be asking for help, guidance, training, feedback, and support more than you are having to push it down onto them.
By Jason Cutter February 3, 2025
If you have seen the movie Hitch, then you know the scene. Will Smith’s character (Hitch) is trying to coach Kevin James’ character (Albert) on how to finish out his upcoming first date. He is giving him pointers, one being that if his date fumbles with her keys at the door, it could mean she wants a kiss. So Hitch wants to see if Albert knows what to do – for a good night kiss. Hitch gives him the advice “you go 90 percent, and then wait for her to go 10%” which Albert then asks “wait for how long?” Hitch: “as long as it takes.” Albert leads in, Hitch is holding back to see if Albert will wait, and then Albert goes all the way and gives him a kiss. Hitch gets upset, and says “You go 90, I go 10 – you don’t go the whole 100%.” The Sales Analogy Kissing our prospective customers is not acceptable (just ask HR!). But the concept is the same. You don’t want to ever make 100% of the effort for your prospective customers. You don’t want to be the one who is doing all the work. Fundamentally, it is not good practice to want the deal more than the other person. When you go your 90, you need to wait – as long as it takes – for the prospect to go to their 10. And I would say that you want to go somewhere between 10-49, in reality. How Successful Sales Professionals Balance Effort Successful sales professionals know how far they have to go to meet the prospect where they are, while also knowing how much effort the prospect needs to put in to show they are committed. Where most salespeople get in trouble is they get desperate. They want the sale (kiss) more than the other person and they go the full 100%. Of course, persistence is important. And you won’t get what you don’t ask for (although…if you have followed me for any length of time, you will know I am very against having to ask for the sale). But you also have to ensure that your prospects actually want what you are selling. And they want it for their reasons and their motivations. They are driven to pursue your production option(s). They must go 10, 40, 60% of the way to you. The Pitfall of Chasing Your Prospect Just like courtship and relationships – if you find yourself chasing and one-sided-pursing the other person then it means you want it more than they do. It also means they own you. You are essentially begging them for the relationship – convincing, manipulating, begging, bribing, persuading your way forward. Which means they consciously and/or subconsciously know that they are in control. Because if they say no, you will keep pursuing and offering solutions. In sales – that looks like a salesperson who is calling, emailing, stalking a prospect – making offers, offering discounts and trials, and trying to find any way to make deal work. They are going 90-100% of the way for the prospect, not requiring them to go anywhere towards the agreement. This will end terribly. If they do decide to buy – taking the discount, free trial, taking the sale bait – they will not be happy (since they weren’t bought in for their reasons), they will look for reasons confirming why they didn’t really want to buy anyway, and they will know that they own you. Your company will have to convince them on a regular basis to stay in the relationship. The Right Balance for Customer Ownership You fundamentally need that prospective customer to come to you. Not 100% where you are just an Order Taker. But potentially 51% of the way – so they want it more than you. The more you can get them across that 50/50 threshold, the more they will be a satisfied customer. But remember – at 51/49 – they still need persuading, they still need to understand the value of your product for where they ultimately want to be in their life/business, and they still need your support. They lean in the right amount, you lean in the right amount = sales magic!
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