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[E299] Honest to Greatness, with Peter Kozodoy (Part 4)

January 17, 2024


What does success mean to you in the context of being an entrepreneur, and how do you measure it?


Despite the less glamorous aspects of running your own business, the liberating feeling of having that autonomy and being able to make our own decisions are definitely worth it. And that’s one of the defining factors of success. It is having the creative freedom to run our business with our own ideas, rather than being limited by someone else’s vision or rules.


You are now your own boss. And by definition gives you the right to your own successes and failures. Whether it is a victory or challenge, the ups and downs that you’ll experience in setting up, running, and growing your own business. 


Despite all these, running your own business is the absolute best way to get the freedom and flexibility that many of us long for. The pull towards freedom is innate in all of us as human beings. It also automatically creates this sense of purpose as you continually push yourself and set ambitious goals.


To experience that freedom and success, you’ll need to set up your business the right way, from an ambitious vision and business model to the day of how you run your business.


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Peter’s Bio

Peter Kozodoy is the award-winning author of Honest to Greatness, an Inc. 5000 serial entrepreneur, TEDx speaker, and business coach who works with organizations and their leaders to help them overcome self-limiting bullsh*t and use honesty to achieve greatness.

His articles on leadership and entrepreneurship have appeared in Forbes, Inc., HuffPost, PR Daily, and more. He holds a BA in economics from Brandeis University and an MBA from Columbia Business School and lives outside New York City with his wife and their spoiled dog. To strike up an honest conversation, visit PeterKozodoy.com.


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  • Show Transcript

    Jason: Welcome back to the sales experience podcast. If you haven't make sure to listen to the first three parts. Today's episode is part for the final segment of my conversation with Peter. We're going to keep rolling. We're going to talk about his early job experiences and funny enough. He's always been in sales, which is different than myself.


    And I just love the fact that he also realizes that everything in life is sales. And so that's just fun. But here you go. Here's the final segment of my conversation with Peter.


    Peter: I find the worst salespeople are the ones that are like, get all of it. Oh, I got a hot lead. And then the whole day, their mindset's in the hot lead.


    And it's okay, so there's one lead. Let's go get 50 more of them. And it's just a that's what I do. That's a thing, right? Just numbers is very sort of nonchalance to it.


    Jason: Where does that balance though? Because I know exactly what you're talking about with celebrating the small wins, celebrating the victories, being excited.


    About those little milestones, little or big, and the over under with the emotional, like I got a hot lead, like this is, I'm going to be rich. And it's then all their eggs are in that one emotional basket that will probably get stepped on because it takes more than one lead. Yeah.


    Peter: And listen, celebrating wins is awesome.


    That's great. And I'm a big fan of rituals. Like we have the bell that rings every time someone makes a sale or an email goes around. I'm a big fan of that. Again, great for the ego, right? To be honest about what it takes to achieve outcomes is to be honest about ego. You and I have said that word bunch today.


    And we as leaders need to take steps to make sure that people that work for us have praise, warranted praise, not undue praise. And especially, I really try, I fail sometimes, as everyone does, really try every time one of my employees, I'm really on them for something, I will, not always, most often I try to make sure I say to them, Hey, I recognize that you went above and beyond here.


    Really nice job. Just want you to let you know that. What's interesting to me is. with all the experiences I've had and in clients and my wife being in the workforce and everything. Oftentimes it doesn't take more than that. Just like a simple acknowledgement. Hey, good job. Really all it takes most times.


    So I see companies go the other way too. They're like all nuts every time and it gets exhausting, right? It's Oh no, here comes the champagne boat again. And again, we get it. So yeah, it's interesting.


    Jason: Yeah. If you go too far to the other extreme, it gets desensitized to it where it's just okay, like now it doesn't mean anything because it's always a celebration.


    And like I've said, if you do spiffs and contests, the problem is if you do them regularly, you have to keep raising the bar. It's 50, then it's 100, then it's a TV, then it's a cruise, then it's a trip to the moon. You have to keep raising the bar. If it's extrinsically trying to motivate the team to win instead of intrinsic, but I think to the point you made a few minutes ago, I think there's always a balance where managers, leaders can go in a negative direction, which is someone says, Hey, I just had a good lead and they say, that's great, except where are the other 50 you were supposed to have today.


    And they beat someone down. Is that my dad?


    Peter: Where's the A


    Jason: where's the A or where's the six other A's? Because that's great, but where's all the other ones? And I think it's, you gotta celebrate the win, and then encourage hey, that's great. Keep on going. You're on a roll and keep it instead of that scarcity.


    You're supposed to do 10 widgets today. You made nine and no porridge for you tonight, right? Yeah, I agree. What's the most non sales job that you've ever had?


    Peter: That's a tough one because I've owned my own company since 22. And when you're a company owner, you're in sales, whether you want it or not.

    Before that, I sold figure skates and figure skating equipment. I really It's always been in it. Other things I've done, like after a professional actor, guess what? Acting is sales. Getting into school, that's sales. Everything's sales. I love it. Being married. That's a lot of sales.


    Yeah. So that's my point earlier. Like it is all sales. I really admire people who grew up with a door to door sales experience. I think everyone, I did not have that experience and I wish I had, I think it would have been really good for me to have that. Before I started my company and I just hired someone the other day, a new speaker agency.


    And I was asking the owner about her experiences again. I used door to door sales and I was like, say no more. You're hired because if you have that experience and you're hardened to it and you understand process like. That is such a huge. Have you ever done something like that, Jason?


    Jason: I never have, but I've managed people who have come from that and hired people out of that.


    And they are such hard workers. They're so thankful to not do it. And they all know their numbers. They know that if I knock on 200 doors, I'm going to get five people to answer. I'm going to sell two of them. Now the question is how can I knock on 200 doors a day? And it's like, how do I knock on more doors faster?


    Because that's the formula. That's it. Which is amazing. What is your definition of success?


    Peter: Freedom. Being able to do whatever I want. Having optionality. That's why I became a business owner. And I tell this to entrepreneurs. I'm like, new entrepreneurs. Oh, I'm going to be an entrepreneur. I see those entrepreneurs on Shark Tank, I'm going to be worth a hundred million dollars.


    I'm like slow your roll there, bud. Take it easy. Because most of it's spent in poverty. And self doubt and disillusion and everything. So there's step one. I say to them here's the question. Would you rather be a broke entrepreneur, make your own way in the world, or would you rather have consistent money and have to work for someone else?


    I would rather be a broke entrepreneur. I want to make sure that my success is my success, my failure is my failure. I want to own it. And to me, ownership over time, over projects, having a conversation with Mr. Jason Cutter that to me is success.


    Jason: Do you, total sidebar, do you consider yourself just completely unemployable?


    Peter: Yeah. Oh, I'd be a total pain in the ass to work for someone else because I'd question everything, especially now. Honesty. I'd be like that. Listen, I hope you don't mind me saying so, but I think that's a dishonest result and here's why. And I hope I haven't offended you. Yeah.


    Jason: Nobody wants that. Most business owners don't, especially because they're going to see it as a threat to their ego and to their position.


    And they're supposed to be the one that knows everything and in charge of everything. And there's a limit to how much you can question. Yeah


    Peter: but interestingly, the leaders in my book show from Warren Buffett to the CEOs of Domino's and Quicken Loans and the Ritz Carlton and, on and on.


    They all share one common trait, which is they love these three little words. It's not, I love you. It's, I don't know. They just literally spend all their time sitting back and being like, I have no idea, right? What do you think? Oh, that sounds reasonable. Let's try that. Not the ego driven leader. I use that word loosely.


    Authority, we'll say, because it's not a leader. Authority. That is, I should know everything and I'm the, that's not the role of an executive today, where we all have the same amount of information. We all have the same Google password here. It's really changed. And that's what I hope people understand. One of the big messages in my book.


    Jason: And I think that's a valid point, which I love and a great reminder. People don't need information anymore. There's some people who need information. Some people need knowledge or reminders about things, but we all have it. Especially your prospective customers don't need you for knowledge.


    They don't need you for information. They need you for wisdom, which is the, I've got knowledge. I know more about you and your product or service than you probably do. Mr. Salesperson. So tell me what the hell it's going to do for me or how you can help me. I need wisdom, not knowledge. So that's great.


    Last question. Curveball. I didn't tell you this one in advance. Journey or the destination.


    Peter: I'm ashamed to admit, but I got to be honest. I'm destination focused. I'm not proud of that. Why not? I don't know, because I find myself rushing through parts of the journey, and I have been trying to be better at reminding myself to slow down, to appreciate a friend of mine, who I spent time with in Israel, has a tattoo that says in Hebrew, this too shall pass, and it's about, this too shall pass when it's bad, but this too shall pass when it's good, too, and I really try to remind myself to slow down, but I don't do a good job Destination.


    Jason: And I said yes, because Most people are going to say journey. Most people say it because they feel like that's the right answer because that's what you're supposed to say. And I love the fact that you said destination. I agree. I think there's always a balance, but the journey is great. But if you don't have a destination, you're going after the journey is just a leaf in the wind.


    So you you could debate, you need both or you need the destination to have a journey.


    Peter: I'll get in trouble for saying this, but you're absolutely right. And people who cling to the, it's about the journey, not the destination. It sounds like something that people who don't achieve their goals say, just like it's not all about the money is something that people who don't have money makes them feel better.


    I know it's a controversial thing to say, but with some of these things, some of these idiomatic expressions that we have can actually, I think, be harmful in the end. I feel like the people who push past those things sometimes figure out on the other side that's weird, why does everybody say that?


    Because it's actually not true. When I started making money in my business, Jason, tell you what, I felt pretty darn good about it.


    Jason: Yeah, and I think there's some truth also to the journey and the process is important because once you get to the destination, you also learn that's not enough, depending on what that holds for you emotionally, like how important the top of that mountain peak is, because then you realize there's other mountain peaks and that's cool, but it's short lived and so it's the journey to the destination to the next journey and the process of doing it.


    The more you can love the process, like Gary V says a lot like that helps, but you also have to have something you're going for. Yeah.


    Peter: The destination is not guaranteed to people tell you that about the pandemic, right? And if it's not the pandemic, it's a wildfire and it's not that it's like all these factors external and internal are coming for us.


    So to your point, destination is not always guaranteed and not always within our control. Appreciating the journey is


    Jason: awesome. Peter, obviously people can get your book honest to greatness everywhere and anywhere. If you're watching the video, there it is again, which I love. PeterKosodoy. com slash go. Is that the best?


    Peter: Yeah, that's great. Or honesttogreatness. com will dump you into my website as well.


    Jason: That's easier to remember. Perfect. And then where are you most active online?


    Peter: I'm like the worst millennial ever, Jason. I'm like begrudgingly on all the social media, but probably Instagram.


    Jason: Instagram. Okay. And don't be ashamed of that.


    That's okay. It's fine. So Peter, thanks for being on the show. I love it. I appreciate the honesty and everything you're doing to shift this. So thank you for this.


    Peter: Thank you. Thanks for being honest.


    Jason: All right. That's it for my conversation with Peter. Hopefully you enjoyed it. Hopefully you caught all four parts.


    Coming up soon, I'm going to do some format changes to the podcast. I got a bunch of feedback from people regarding what they'd like to see different with the show. So coming up soon, I'm going to have some changes. Stay tuned. Make sure to subscribe so you can catch the episodes now every day. And then with whatever the new format is going to be, it's going to be a surprise.


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By Jason Cutter February 19, 2025
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By Jason Cutter February 18, 2025
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By Jason Cutter February 17, 2025
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By Jason Cutter February 13, 2025
The Balance of Effort in Sales The blogs this week have been about the other person going most of the way. Whether it’s a prospective customer and your salesperson, where the salesperson truly can’t want the deal or make most of it happen for that customer to truly be successful. On the path for that prospect to becoming a customer, they should go at least 51/49. Whether it’s your team and their manager, the manager can’t want the team to succeed more than the team actually wants it for themselves. It’s not scalable for the coach (manager) to run on the field every play to win the game for the salespeople. What about sales ops processes and systems? What about the tools available to the sales team and the ones that are classified as sales enablement? In a reversal of philosophy, I believe the sales ops processes should go 90, the team should only have to go 10. Why Do We Need Salespeople? Let’s start where it matters – what is the point of having salespeople? I know many owners question the need and desire to have salespeople. They are hard to manage, tough to deal with, always want more money (potentially for doing less work and closing less deals), and are very resistant to change. Of course, that is a generalization. Of course, there are salespeople who don’t check those boxes. However, having worked with a lot of teams in a lot of industries, that generalization isn’t completely wrong or unfair. So if there is even a small part of that which is accurate, why would we even mess with the messiness of having salespeople? Of needing to employ and manage humans? The Human Element in Sales We need them. That’s why. Even in 2025, AI and technology has not successfully replicated the requirements of sales – which is about helping a human (prospect/customer) make the right decision and move outside of their comfort zone to buy something new. It still takes your human (salesperson) to persuade that other human. It’s why I say all the time that its not B2B, B2C, Retail, SaaS, etc. – it’s H2H. Sure, people can buy something online or even in a store without speaking to someone. But if it’s a considered purchase where there are options and decisions to be considered – it still takes a human being involved. That means ultimately your human (salesperson) has one job, and one job only – persuade the right prospective humans to buy. Minimizing Distractions for Salespeople Everything outside of that mission, task, focus is a distraction that takes away from their highest and best use. Imagine if we had a surgeon who had to prep the room, prep the patient, schedule the surgery and meetings, and do all the parts of the surgery themselves. Nope – they show up for the surgery and do what they do best. Then they take off their gown, gloves, and walk away to get cleaned up and move on to the next thing. Your goal as a sales ops leader is to support the team with systems and processes that allow them to focus on the one thing you need them for. The human part. It would be amazing if they could show up, talk to people, and make sales happen. Of course, there is more that they (and any professional) need to do before, during, and after the sales conversation. But your goal is to minimize all that. Every hour that your salespeople aren’t selling or doing sales-related activities, they aren’t moving revenue forward. The Ultimate Goal of Sales Ops What processes can you put in place that go 90 percent of the way, where the salesperson can do the last 10 percent? An example would be building an email campaign that runs automatically, and when the right people reply, the salesperson gets involved in getting that person from email to phone call. Another example would be your CRM serving up people for the salesperson to call – leads or anyone in the sales pipeline flow – with all the backstory, research, data, intel needed for them to review it then take action. What can you put into place that takes away as much distraction and effort from your sales team such that they can focus on the one thing you need to focus on – other humans?
By Jason Cutter February 12, 2025
The Danger of Doing Too Much as a Sales Leader Alright – so maybe they don’t need to go 90. In true servant leadership mode, you would go way more than 10% of the way to your team. But you have to be careful, as a sales leader. The inclination might be to do it all for them. To help them close their sales. To make excuses for them to your leadership as to why they aren’t closing more sales. Especially considering the very high likelihood that you are a sales manager because you were a great salesperson in the role that you are now managing. And there is a slight chance that you are a player-coach…so you are leading and selling. This can make it really tough not to want to run out on the field to win the game each time. But that doesn’t scale. That doesn’t lead to increased results. You can only sell so much as one person. Creating a Culture of Ownership So, you need to have people on your team that are coming to you. What does that look like? The pinnacle is a salesperson who doesn’t close a deal, comes to you right away and asks for feedback. They want some critiques as to where they could have done things better, different that would have led to the desired result – a closed sale. That takes a healthy level of ego by a professional who has the ultimate growth mindset. They know there are always ways to improve. They want to improve. And they are willing to risk their ego (and the internal, protective, primal part of our brain that doesn’t want to risk our place in the tribe) by asking for feedback that could be negative. Whenever you can, encourage that type of response. Ensure that the team knows that the team itself, and you as their leader, is a safe space – where the goal is to improve, grow, win and that everything done to support each other is done in that mode. They truly have to feel safe to share their mistakes and to get support in learning how to do more, better. Feedback That Drives Growth Part of this takes team and individual meetings that are actually filled with positive support. That doesn’t mean it’s always positive, motivational fluff. It’s not even about the shallow strategy of the feedback sandwich. Its about being real, honest, and empathetic – meaning “I see you are here, I know you want to be there, I will help you get there – even if its hard and it means saying hard things.” It should never feel mean or abusive or like an attack. But you can give some really direct feedback that will sting that ego I mentioned, but the person will know the intent behind it. The second part is hiring this type of person. Hiring people for the team that wants to win, grow, succeed. And they know that you don’t get better by being coddled, sheltered, or protected. You want people who don’t like the thought of perpetually living safely in their comfort zone. And they are excited about the opportunity to be a part of a team that pushes everyone, empathetically, outside of their comfort zone. Are You Leading or Just Managing? If you find yourself as a leader having to push your team, or going to them most of the time, or most of the way mentally – then they see you as a manager not a leader. They see you as someone who manages them, pushes them, and wants them to do things they don’t want to do. I have written some blogs here that go into what your role should be – as a leader, not a manager. Pulling people along with you, inspiring people, and supporting yourself with a team of people who want to win. Not just those that want to show up, do as little as they can and hopefully go unnoticed (yet – complain about not making enough money and how the comp plan isn’t fair, or the leads are bad, or their schedule means they can’t be successful.) Make sure your team knows that they need to come to you – at least 51/49. They should be asking for help, guidance, training, feedback, and support more than you are having to push it down onto them.
By Jason Cutter February 3, 2025
If you have seen the movie Hitch, then you know the scene. Will Smith’s character (Hitch) is trying to coach Kevin James’ character (Albert) on how to finish out his upcoming first date. He is giving him pointers, one being that if his date fumbles with her keys at the door, it could mean she wants a kiss. So Hitch wants to see if Albert knows what to do – for a good night kiss. Hitch gives him the advice “you go 90 percent, and then wait for her to go 10%” which Albert then asks “wait for how long?” Hitch: “as long as it takes.” Albert leads in, Hitch is holding back to see if Albert will wait, and then Albert goes all the way and gives him a kiss. Hitch gets upset, and says “You go 90, I go 10 – you don’t go the whole 100%.” The Sales Analogy Kissing our prospective customers is not acceptable (just ask HR!). But the concept is the same. You don’t want to ever make 100% of the effort for your prospective customers. You don’t want to be the one who is doing all the work. Fundamentally, it is not good practice to want the deal more than the other person. When you go your 90, you need to wait – as long as it takes – for the prospect to go to their 10. And I would say that you want to go somewhere between 10-49, in reality. How Successful Sales Professionals Balance Effort Successful sales professionals know how far they have to go to meet the prospect where they are, while also knowing how much effort the prospect needs to put in to show they are committed. Where most salespeople get in trouble is they get desperate. They want the sale (kiss) more than the other person and they go the full 100%. Of course, persistence is important. And you won’t get what you don’t ask for (although…if you have followed me for any length of time, you will know I am very against having to ask for the sale). But you also have to ensure that your prospects actually want what you are selling. And they want it for their reasons and their motivations. They are driven to pursue your production option(s). They must go 10, 40, 60% of the way to you. The Pitfall of Chasing Your Prospect Just like courtship and relationships – if you find yourself chasing and one-sided-pursing the other person then it means you want it more than they do. It also means they own you. You are essentially begging them for the relationship – convincing, manipulating, begging, bribing, persuading your way forward. Which means they consciously and/or subconsciously know that they are in control. Because if they say no, you will keep pursuing and offering solutions. In sales – that looks like a salesperson who is calling, emailing, stalking a prospect – making offers, offering discounts and trials, and trying to find any way to make deal work. They are going 90-100% of the way for the prospect, not requiring them to go anywhere towards the agreement. This will end terribly. If they do decide to buy – taking the discount, free trial, taking the sale bait – they will not be happy (since they weren’t bought in for their reasons), they will look for reasons confirming why they didn’t really want to buy anyway, and they will know that they own you. Your company will have to convince them on a regular basis to stay in the relationship. The Right Balance for Customer Ownership You fundamentally need that prospective customer to come to you. Not 100% where you are just an Order Taker. But potentially 51% of the way – so they want it more than you. The more you can get them across that 50/50 threshold, the more they will be a satisfied customer. But remember – at 51/49 – they still need persuading, they still need to understand the value of your product for where they ultimately want to be in their life/business, and they still need your support. They lean in the right amount, you lean in the right amount = sales magic!
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