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[E298] Honest to Greatness, with Peter Kozodoy (Part 3)

January 17, 2024


How do you approach keeping an open mind, especially when faced with challenges or differing perspectives?


It’s surprising how our self-limiting beliefs, the lies and assumptions we tell ourselves can prevent us from achieving the goals we’ve laid out by ourselves. Only by keeping an open mind, communicating with others, and understanding their standpoint, will allow us to have an open conversation without ego barriers.


It takes time and a great deal of understanding. But it could also liberate us from the misalignments we have in our lives. We get to know more of ourselves in the process and be in touch with our values. When you are out of alignment with what you really believe and want in life, it would be difficult for you to bring authenticity to the table.


By being real and authentic, you’d easily be able to genuinely relate with others. It may be in your personal life or in your business. Relationships are built that are developed by trust, open communication, and authenticity.


Life is too short to do something you don’t like doing. So get yourself into that alignment by being real and honest to yourself.



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Peter’s Bio

Peter Kozodoy is the award-winning author of Honest to Greatness, an Inc. 5000 serial entrepreneur, TEDx speaker, and business coach who works with organizations and their leaders to help them overcome self-limiting bullsh*t and use honesty to achieve greatness.

His articles on leadership and entrepreneurship have appeared in Forbes, Inc., HuffPost, PR Daily, and more. He holds a BA in economics from Brandeis University and an MBA from Columbia Business School and lives outside New York City with his wife and their spoiled dog. To strike up an honest conversation, visit PeterKozodoy.com.


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  • Show Transcript

    Jason: Welcome back to the sales experience podcast. Welcome to part three of my conversation with Peter Kozodoy. If you didn't Make sure to check out part one and two, as always subscribe so that you get all of these episodes every single day, leave a rating, leave a review, share it with anybody in sales, anybody who realizes that's everything in life is sales.


    Make sure to share with them. Here you go. Here's part three. Enjoy.


    Peter: And at the end of the call, they're like, Oh. Wait, what do you do again? Oh yeah. No, that sounds good. All right. Let's do that. Wow. You really understood me. You just talked like, that's it. It's that easy. So yeah, no, great lesson.


    Jason: Just like a good therapist, right?


    A good therapist job is to just ask questions and get you thinking and help you walk yourself through good. Salesperson is doing the same thing. It's not about monologues and features because the thing is once the therapy session is over or the sales process is over. That person is going back into their life in their head.


    And when they wake up at two o'clock in the morning, are they going to be happy and excited because they bought it for their reasons? Or is it a cold panicky sweat because they got talked into something and now they're regretting it?


    Peter: Yeah. A sale isn't always a win.


    Jason: Not at all. Let's talk about, to you, what does it mean to be authentic?


    Peter: Yeah, I talk a lot about honest alignment. It pains me when folks are living out of alignment with who they really are, and what their core values are, what their beliefs are. You think of the average corporate worker is just not in alignment with the core values that are posted on the wall of the business, by the way, the business usually isn't in alignment with the core values on the wall anyway but all those misalignments, they matter and they show up when people are out of alignment with what they really want in life, or they've buried what they really want under assumptions that aren't true, self limiting beliefs that aren't true, right?


    There's so many things. I've worked with hundreds of entrepreneurs helping them build their own million dollar business and it's amazing what people tell themselves One of the stories I tell in my book was of a guy who invented this meter You bolted it on to water pipes at the water company and it could read the flow a lot better and it would instantly Save the water company money, right?


    Because of the way it can measure the flow of the water. So I was like, okay, let's create a sales program. Cause he came to me and was like, I can't sell this. I don't know what to do. I'm like, okay, all right, sales program. Great water companies, pretty specific list. We just build a list of them, write some scripts, start calling.


    Oh no, I can't do that. I said, okay, why can't you do that? People cold call me all the time. I don't like cold callers. They suck. I would never want to be that guy. I was like, oh, okay. So I just want to make sure I understand. You don't want to make cold calls to water companies because you don't want to be that guy, the cold caller that you don't like.


    He was like, yeah, he's like convinced I got it through my like fixed call. He's yes, that's exactly what I'm saying. I was like, okay, cool. No, I just want to make sure I understand. All right. So people that find you now, they just stumble upon your product. They find you at a trade show.


    He's Yeah, he's yeah, I do. I do a couple of shows and people find me or one water company called another one time and referred me as a go. Okay, cool. So as one understand that the companies that find you. They buy your products and then they save money. He's yes. He's what are you stupid?


    Yes, exactly. I was like, okay, cool. So what you're saying is only the companies that are lucky enough to stumble upon you and find you are the ones that deserve to make money and all the rest of the water companies and all the. people that pay those water bills, they don't deserve to save money. Is that what you're saying?


    And I'm silent. And then he goes, yeah, if you put it that way, then yes. Yeah. Okay. We built a sales program that day. So it's amazing the things we tell ourselves, like the stories, the assumptions, all that crap that prevents us from doing what we need to do to achieve the goals that we've laid out for ourselves.


    And what I found Jason is no one can sit in a room and figure that out. It's called a blind spot for a reason. If we want to get rid of all those lies, we need to work with other people, a coach, a mentor, a group. I run groups for entrepreneurs for that reason. Without that process, without even the awareness that we have blind spots, nevermind the exploration of them, we're just plain stuck.


    We're living out of alignment with what's true. And


    Jason: I love that honest alignment kind of perspective on what it means to be authentic. And I completely agree about organizations. And I think the alignment goes even deeper in the individual basis, which I know that you focus on. If you have that Sunday afternoon, evening pit of your stomach because you don't want to go to work the next day and start your work week.


    I think life is too short to do crap you don't like. How do you get yourself into alignment? Get honest.


    Peter: Yeah, start getting honest. And I give tools in the book. One thing everyone can implement right now is two questions that literally can change your life, which is that true and how do I know?


    And this applies to a headline on the news, your great aunt Millie's scandalous Facebook post, or the thoughts and assumptions you have in your head. Just build a practice, a habit of stopping and asking, is that true? And how do I know? How can I test it? Because unless you know that it's true, and you've logically tested it, then what are we doing here?


    Your operating system we're like a computer, right? Our whole operating system is built on these levels of assumptions, like assumption I'm going to get up in the morning and my feet will point downward because gravity will still be here, right? That's really likely. But all the other assumptions, like the ones I told you about earlier, those are really harmful unless we get Honest about those even begin to be aware that we have this habit, that we have this addiction to lying to ourselves.


    We can't possibly begin to break it.


    Jason: And the is it true? And how do I know? All the limiting beliefs, the ideas, I'm just thinking for myself and for others. It's like, how do you know that's true? How do you know that's the only way to do something or the best way to do something or the best way to live or run your business or hire people, right?


    Any and all of them. Then the follow up to this, obviously the other formula for me in the authentic persuasion piece is talk about what you think and feel about persuasion in this framework. Okay.


    Peter: Yeah, it's so funny you ask because I was on another TV station a while ago talking about the mask debate, right?


    It's what do you do when your family members will wear masks or won't wear masks and whatever your stance is What are you doing? Someone else doesn't want to do that. And how do you persuade them? Now, I don't know about you, Jason, but I've never seen work in my life, the following scenario. Someone is refusing to wear a mask, and I come to them and I say what are you, stupid?


    Why aren't you looking at all this data? What's wrong with you? I can't believe you would do that. In that kind of situation, that person has never been like, Oh my gosh, you're right. Why am I so stupid? I should have seen it that way. Crazy. I'll absolutely wear that mask now. That's not a thing. That's not how people change, right?


    It's not a thing. And yet, by the way, so many of our folks around there in society take that route, right? It doesn't make any sense to me. Instead, like we were saying earlier, it's hey, I noticed that you are, in this situation, not wearing a mask. Can you tell me more about that? What are you reading?


    What are you watching? How did you form your opinion? What are you thinking about? Only by being open minded and by understanding where they're coming from can we begin To have an open conversation without ego barriers, and come to a common ground. It takes time, and it takes understanding. And by the way, by the time that you have allowed them to explain their position, who knows?


    You may be like, damn, that's actually really good reasons you have there. I didn't think of it that way. I can't tell you how many times, Jason, there's been in conflict, right? I learned this in my late 20s. I've had some sort of conflict in my life, and I said to myself, you know what? I'm just going to pretend it's all my fault.


    It's I know it's not, I know it's them, but I'm going to pretend it's my fault. And so what do I do? I'd probably take more deep breaths and I would apologize and I would ask them more questions. And so I started to assume that everything was my fault. And what's crazy? Everything was my fault.


    As soon as I assumed it was me, turns out it was. And I was like, oh, wow, that's a good thing. I was open minded enough to even consider that maybe I was not correct. And that alone can help to reach people where they are, and then begin to move them one peg at a time from where they are to where they're going.


    Because otherwise, guess what? You're trying to persuade someone to go to a position you don't know are they starting in California? Are they starting in Bali? Are they starting in South America? You don't know where they're starting from. How do you move them? to where you're trying to go. It doesn't make any sense.


    Jason: And I love that, especially if we put that in the framework of sales and selling, which is there's the classic model, which is let me talk about the trade show booth example with your inventor, entrepreneur, and walk up to a trade show booth. And all you get is a three minute monologue about how great the company is, what the product is, why you should be using it.


    Why the competition sucks and all of that versus literally like my style. And what I teach people is just ask questions, going back to the questions part, right? It's let me understand you and your situation a, to see if it's even a good fit can I even help you? And then B if I can, why? Like where? And I think that just goes into what you're saying with the mask example, which is, let me understand you first and your situation. and see what's true it goes back to the is it true and how do i know you look at people in another very polarizing is just politics right i believe in this you believe in that you're wrong the data shows that you're wrong you're dumb you should come with my political party and it's like that doesn't work for politics it doesn't work for College sports teams.


    My team's better than yours. Look at the numbers. That never works.


    Peter: Like it just doesn't work. And by the way, I think it should go without saying, I know this is a podcast about sales, which means it's a podcast about everything because everything is sales. Everything that involves another human being is persuasion.


    By the way, persuasion and sales even happens in your own mind. I have to sell myself on getting the courage to get up on this podcast, like everything is sales. These skills are so fundamental.


    Jason: And that's what I say at the end of every episode. And maybe you've covered it in your experience. What's one trait that you've see successful salespeople do that makes them successful traits, personality, mindset.


    Peter: It's an attitude. Like the best salespeople I've seen are just so relaxed. And they're like. I want to be your friend. Like I'm gonna be your buddy and we're gonna have a great time and they like get really like into the person and the human being and the relationship and I really admire that because I'm like a closeted introvert I think.


    I haven't tested that. That may not be true but it feels like it. So I have to push myself to really like break past that human To human boundary and that the best salespeople are like, by the end of the day, it's Oh, this is my best friend or whatever. And they haven't talked about like the product or the company or anything else at all.


    And when it comes time to talk about that, the person's no, I don't want to hear about any of that. You're cool. Let's just do the deal. And I'm like, how did they do that? So yeah, that I would say is I've always been impressed by that.


    Jason: That's awesome. I love it. And I would say I used to think I was the same way too, about being an introvert because people didn't energize me.


    It drained me. I didn't look forward to networking events and people and parties. And then I stumbled upon the term ambivert, which is situational kind of energy sources and in the moment versus not. I think that's very applicable to a lot of people because a pure introvert. That's a different thing, right?


    Just like a pure extrovert, but then that middle ground where you take it, leave it. It's good. It's not good. It's necessary. You go either way. So what do you think the best salespeople do every day?


    Peter: They don't wing it. They stick to the process, stick to the script. That's it. Like the best salespeople are just, I feel like they're not even thinking about, there's no emotion attached to it.


    It's just here's the 200 calls. I run the 200 calls and I run the script and that script doesn't work. I change it and I run it again. It's like a computer program. I find the worst salespeople are the ones that are like, get all of it. Oh, I got a hot lead. And then the whole day their mindset's in the hot lead.


    And it's okay, so there's one lead. Let's go get 50 more of them. And it's just a that's what I do. That's a thing, right? Just numbers. This is very sort of nonchalance to it.


    Jason: All right, that's it for part three. You know the routine. I'll see you tomorrow for part four. Have a great day.


    That's it for another episode of the Sales Experience Podcast. Thank you so much for listening. If you find yourself on iTunes, can you leave the show a rating and a review? It helps other sales people and sales leaders find the show. And please subscribe to the show and share episodes you find valuable with anyone you know in sales.


    Help me on my mission of changing the way salespeople's lives. Sales is done. And if you're ready to work together, go to Jason cutter. com. Again, that's Jason cutter. com to find out how I can help you or your company create scalable sales success. I will see you on the next sales experience podcast episode, and keep in mind that everything in life is sales and people will remember the experience you gave them.


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The Danger of Doing Too Much as a Sales Leader Alright – so maybe they don’t need to go 90. In true servant leadership mode, you would go way more than 10% of the way to your team. But you have to be careful, as a sales leader. The inclination might be to do it all for them. To help them close their sales. To make excuses for them to your leadership as to why they aren’t closing more sales. Especially considering the very high likelihood that you are a sales manager because you were a great salesperson in the role that you are now managing. And there is a slight chance that you are a player-coach…so you are leading and selling. This can make it really tough not to want to run out on the field to win the game each time. But that doesn’t scale. That doesn’t lead to increased results. You can only sell so much as one person. Creating a Culture of Ownership So, you need to have people on your team that are coming to you. What does that look like? The pinnacle is a salesperson who doesn’t close a deal, comes to you right away and asks for feedback. They want some critiques as to where they could have done things better, different that would have led to the desired result – a closed sale. That takes a healthy level of ego by a professional who has the ultimate growth mindset. They know there are always ways to improve. They want to improve. And they are willing to risk their ego (and the internal, protective, primal part of our brain that doesn’t want to risk our place in the tribe) by asking for feedback that could be negative. Whenever you can, encourage that type of response. Ensure that the team knows that the team itself, and you as their leader, is a safe space – where the goal is to improve, grow, win and that everything done to support each other is done in that mode. They truly have to feel safe to share their mistakes and to get support in learning how to do more, better. Feedback That Drives Growth Part of this takes team and individual meetings that are actually filled with positive support. That doesn’t mean it’s always positive, motivational fluff. It’s not even about the shallow strategy of the feedback sandwich. Its about being real, honest, and empathetic – meaning “I see you are here, I know you want to be there, I will help you get there – even if its hard and it means saying hard things.” It should never feel mean or abusive or like an attack. But you can give some really direct feedback that will sting that ego I mentioned, but the person will know the intent behind it. The second part is hiring this type of person. Hiring people for the team that wants to win, grow, succeed. And they know that you don’t get better by being coddled, sheltered, or protected. You want people who don’t like the thought of perpetually living safely in their comfort zone. And they are excited about the opportunity to be a part of a team that pushes everyone, empathetically, outside of their comfort zone. Are You Leading or Just Managing? If you find yourself as a leader having to push your team, or going to them most of the time, or most of the way mentally – then they see you as a manager not a leader. They see you as someone who manages them, pushes them, and wants them to do things they don’t want to do. I have written some blogs here that go into what your role should be – as a leader, not a manager. Pulling people along with you, inspiring people, and supporting yourself with a team of people who want to win. Not just those that want to show up, do as little as they can and hopefully go unnoticed (yet – complain about not making enough money and how the comp plan isn’t fair, or the leads are bad, or their schedule means they can’t be successful.) Make sure your team knows that they need to come to you – at least 51/49. They should be asking for help, guidance, training, feedback, and support more than you are having to push it down onto them.
By Jason Cutter February 3, 2025
If you have seen the movie Hitch, then you know the scene. Will Smith’s character (Hitch) is trying to coach Kevin James’ character (Albert) on how to finish out his upcoming first date. He is giving him pointers, one being that if his date fumbles with her keys at the door, it could mean she wants a kiss. So Hitch wants to see if Albert knows what to do – for a good night kiss. Hitch gives him the advice “you go 90 percent, and then wait for her to go 10%” which Albert then asks “wait for how long?” Hitch: “as long as it takes.” Albert leads in, Hitch is holding back to see if Albert will wait, and then Albert goes all the way and gives him a kiss. Hitch gets upset, and says “You go 90, I go 10 – you don’t go the whole 100%.” The Sales Analogy Kissing our prospective customers is not acceptable (just ask HR!). But the concept is the same. You don’t want to ever make 100% of the effort for your prospective customers. You don’t want to be the one who is doing all the work. Fundamentally, it is not good practice to want the deal more than the other person. When you go your 90, you need to wait – as long as it takes – for the prospect to go to their 10. And I would say that you want to go somewhere between 10-49, in reality. How Successful Sales Professionals Balance Effort Successful sales professionals know how far they have to go to meet the prospect where they are, while also knowing how much effort the prospect needs to put in to show they are committed. Where most salespeople get in trouble is they get desperate. They want the sale (kiss) more than the other person and they go the full 100%. Of course, persistence is important. And you won’t get what you don’t ask for (although…if you have followed me for any length of time, you will know I am very against having to ask for the sale). But you also have to ensure that your prospects actually want what you are selling. And they want it for their reasons and their motivations. They are driven to pursue your production option(s). They must go 10, 40, 60% of the way to you. The Pitfall of Chasing Your Prospect Just like courtship and relationships – if you find yourself chasing and one-sided-pursing the other person then it means you want it more than they do. It also means they own you. You are essentially begging them for the relationship – convincing, manipulating, begging, bribing, persuading your way forward. Which means they consciously and/or subconsciously know that they are in control. Because if they say no, you will keep pursuing and offering solutions. In sales – that looks like a salesperson who is calling, emailing, stalking a prospect – making offers, offering discounts and trials, and trying to find any way to make deal work. They are going 90-100% of the way for the prospect, not requiring them to go anywhere towards the agreement. This will end terribly. If they do decide to buy – taking the discount, free trial, taking the sale bait – they will not be happy (since they weren’t bought in for their reasons), they will look for reasons confirming why they didn’t really want to buy anyway, and they will know that they own you. Your company will have to convince them on a regular basis to stay in the relationship. The Right Balance for Customer Ownership You fundamentally need that prospective customer to come to you. Not 100% where you are just an Order Taker. But potentially 51% of the way – so they want it more than you. The more you can get them across that 50/50 threshold, the more they will be a satisfied customer. But remember – at 51/49 – they still need persuading, they still need to understand the value of your product for where they ultimately want to be in their life/business, and they still need your support. They lean in the right amount, you lean in the right amount = sales magic!
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