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[E270] From Vacuums to IT sales, with Grandpa Stork (Part 2)

January 17, 2024



What matters most during the sales process? 


What matters most during the sales process? How can you go beyond approaching and presenting to create long term relationships with your clients?


Salespeople have to keep a professional image as they approach their clients, however, that is not what maintains their strategy to close sales. Reaching to prospects during the sales process is not just demonstrating products or services to them. It requires understanding and being attentive to your clients.


In this episode, Grandpa Stork shares the importance of developing relationships, forming connections, and listening to clients during the sales process.


Learn how to build relationships as a salesperson by having a transparent and authentic connection with clients, conquering your fear of failing, and finding ways to go beyond having valuable conversations.


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Anthony a.k.a. Grandpa Stork’s bio: 

‘I’m a Grandpa!”


Motto: Dream Big – Play Hard – Give Back – Have Fun


Anthony Hall aka Grandpa STORK, is a dragon flying, superhero – in training; an IT veteran (hardware/software dev) with over 27 yrs experience in business development and sales. 


The current side-hustle is as a Training Coordinator for the Holistic Information Security Practitioner Institute (HISPI), a nonprofit Cybersecurity Training and Certification organization.


After witnessing the birth of his first grandchild, Anthony founded The Rose of Education Organization (TREO), Inc, a Space Tourism industry startup developing operations in Education, Entertainment, and Exploration.


So that his grandchildren and their grandchildren, the children of Africa, and around the World in marginalized communities, might aspire to become Captains of Industry, not just a ‘captive audience’ on humanity’s grand voyage among the stars.



Have You METT TREO?

Mentors, Educators, Teachers, and Technologists.


The Rose of Education Organization.


“Where Education is Child’s Play and Technology is a Game.”


50 year Mission: EDEN3 Mars Colony


Star Date: 24.11.2060 (inauguration)


What kind of games and sports will humanity play in Space?

TREO’s business plan is to become the answer to the above question.


Imagining what it would be like to stand on the back of a dragon while it’s flying, Grandpa STORK created the Dragon’s Fire Flying EGG (Exercise Game Gear) – the Art of Fitness, to turn humanity’s fantasy of human-powered flight into a Virtual Reality, exercise, and game.


The Dragon’s EGG is a component of the Dragon’s Fire Flying Suite of Live-Action (LA), AR & VR Games: Basketball • Quidditch • Squash • Sentinels and the Dragon’s Fire. The 4th Dimension of health, wellness, and fitness.


Grandpa STORK took his ‘dragon flying game on the road, Feb 2014, to test and develop a prototype, 78 months and 17 countries later, Grandpa is still flying high, bringing the House of Flying Dragons Pop-Up Circus and School for the Gifted to the World.


 

Success Stories: 

Putting Spies on Ice

From Ashes to Aalborg

Quest for the Dragon’s EGG

From Easter Hill to Silicon Valley

The Sentinels and the Dragon’s Fire

 

Social Media links:

Websitewww.hispi.org / www.thecyberist.com

Twitterwww.twitter.com/iamonlyclay

LinkedInwww.linkedin.com/groups/3477989 / https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthonymhall/

Facebookwww.facebook.com/theroseofeducation

YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/user/antman488

LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/anthonymhall/

 

M: +255 768821432 (Tanzania)

E: grandpastorks.hofd@gmail.com

WhatsApp: +254758564347

Skype: therose.ofeducation

  • Show Transcript

    Jason: All right, welcome back to the sales experience podcast. My name again is Jason Cutter. This is going to be part two of my conversation with Anthony Hall, AKA Grandpa Stark. I know last time I said Grandpa Stark, AKA Anthony Hall. I just know him as Grandpa Stork. He is a fun character. We had a really good time in this conversation.


    It was definitely different than a lot of the conversations I have with sales leaders or people with lots of experience because it's just so real and so authentic. So here you go, part two, and I will catch you at the end.


    Grandpa: So treating people as human beings and as honoring that time, then for me, ultimately it's a win.


    If you're able to make a connection and. Find someplace way to even grow beyond that. And I think that's, for me, has been the most rewarding part of kind of my sales career.


    Jason: What I like about what you said. Is the story about this sitting around having a pint after the conference, just chatting. The people who I know that are most successful, and this is why I focus on this for salespeople and teams in general is obviously my authentic persuasion kind of methodology and focus.


    Is that authentic piece, right? It's being who you are always not, okay, there's me in sales mode and I've got to act a certain way. And then after work, I'm totally different because then it's tough to keep up that act. And I think that's, it's so funny cause I'd never thought about this, but you're talking about this after hours, after a conference, just chatting with people.


    So much more gets done and so much deeper relationships get formed in those situations. And I think a lot of times it's because people put their guard down. They're just being real. They're just being normal instead of trying to be professional version. And that's what people are gravitated to.


    They want to have relationships with real people. And they're totally willing to buy from real people. A lot of times in sales people are worried like if they know who I really am. They're not going to want to buy from me because they're not going to like me. It's like the opposite is true. It's like nobody likes to fake you for very long.


    Grandpa: You're so right about that. And so being our authentic selves and not being afraid to, not necessarily wearing our emotions on our sleeve, but being just. It's a kind of human transparency about we know that, we hopefully will get some business done. We'll do some business together, but that's not what all life is about as well.


    And so segwaying into it, talk about your family connections or experiences and they add richness and also sometimes can add context and reveal. Certain things that might make that journey towards hopefully closing the deal. It can hopefully move it down a lot.


    Jason: Now, if we look at your sales career, right?


    So you've been doing sales for quite some time, as you mentioned, one of your first roles in a company was 1992. So may put you a little bit ahead or older than the people this thing. What have you seen that has changed in either the way that sales is done or the way that prospects act or buy?


    Like over this career, 20 plus, 30 plus years, like what changes have you seen where people operate different now? Sales people and Buyers versus then.


    Grandpa: That's a good question. Ultimately, the buyer is a lot better educated now, for one thing, which is a great thing, but then there's also things to distract them and to pull the perspective buyer.


    And so salespeople and the tool that salespeople have. Back then we were using an app, goldmine. Some of these old and now with Salesforce and all these customer relationship management programs and sales programs, the tools sometimes end up, I think it all depends on how the you, cause I've looked to Salesforce and act and gold mine.


    It was great for keeping track of everything, but I've also worked in organizations where we're using those tools, but let me go back. I've always been used to being a part of the whole process of the sale. Whether, initial contact and prospect and customer service and just, having really a hands on part of sales because that's how you understand what the process is.


    And, but then I worked for a couple of companies where a lot of that was separated. I was just only doing one part. You contact all the top on base resellers and make sure we get them in for a meeting and someone else was going to do the follow up. Someone else was going to invite. And for me, that was hard.


    how to compartmentalize that, how not to be part of that whole process. Being able to drill down and make these second and third connections and be able to Leverage linkedin and find have all these meetings set up and so forth But they can also sometimes get in the way from having meaningful Conversations and a lot of the sales that I was involved in and the strategic relationship with partners


    Jason: One thing I've seen is that salespeople worry about only being able to win if they use manipulation, tricks, tactics, and hard closes, so they end up struggling to close deals, make their quota, or earn the kind of money that they want to make.


    If this sounds like your current situation, or maybe you want to make more money in sales without feeling like you're selling, then my upcoming book called Selling with Authentic Persuasion will help. In it, I'm going to take you on a journey to transform from order taker to quota breaker. If you're ready to become an authentic persuader, crush your goals and create success in your sales career, then go to jasoncutter.


    com. Again, that's jasoncutter. com and pre order the book today. I think this is important for people to pick up. Again, whether it's a manager or owner listening to this or a salesperson is it's always good to understand your relationship style. And if you're short term, if you're long term, if you want to be involved, if you don't want to be involved, like where you want your piece to be and there's no right or wrong, right?


    It's not about if you're going to be in sales, it's all about long term and relationships. And it's about being married, not just dating. No, it doesn't have to be about a long term commitment for everybody. Some people will. That's not their thing. They like to sell. They like to hand it off to the account managers, to customer service, to fulfillment, and then move on and find somebody else.


    So you've had this long career, right? You're doing various things throughout your career. And now you're in. Three different sectors, three different business selling roles, right? And so the three things that you're selling, because I made some notes on this just to keep track of my head, because I know the main one that I see you on LinkedIn, and then there's the other two, which almost seem like side projects, but they're not, is a cyber security technology, space tourism education, and then your dragon egg inspirational fitness program.


    Which those are short headlines for all three, right? That's not enough details. So the thing that I find fascinating, and this is what I want to talk about, what I want to hear more of and share with people is there, is to me, those three things and the target audience for all three of those things are all three different groups.


    And so it requires wearing several different hats and Probably your sales strategy might stay the same, but then there's the parts of it that are going to differ because of what you're selling and who you're selling to. So where do you, like across those three things and everything that you're doing, what parts of your sales process do you keep the same?


    Grandpa: Now and making connections as I travel and then just listening, what are people looking for? What are some of the areas that would benefit them and who do I know? So it's always really about. As I travel, I have all these cyber security in my back pocket, I have game based learning in my back pocket, I have robotics and aerospace education, training, all these, what I see are really just components of this enterprise, which we know as TRAIL, the Roads of Education organization, as we view it.


    Be a leader and a pioneer in education, entertainment, exploration, as a space tourism industry, and how will these industries and these disciplines, how does cybersecurity affect space technology and space exploration and, asteroid mining and colonization, what kind of game and sports will humanity play in space?


    How to answer those are questions that to go into your question about how does the sales process change? For me, that means I had to learn what I don't know. I didn't know what I didn't know. And so I had to do a lot of learning and reaching out to people and find myself and not being afraid to say, Hey, I don't know.


    But. It came to a point where I realized that I needed a tribe of people, I needed connections that I could go to for answers and people that I could, even people who are younger than me, have become mentors of mine and senseis as it were. One of the things that I have recognized about myself that being an entrepreneur and taking more of this kind of style of meeting directly with people, going in and this fully kind of informal type of way of developing is partnerships where I just, Go to a country.


    I have an idea of who


    Jason: I'm going to meet with. There's three things. One is the openness of feedback, of not knowing everything, of wanting to learn, wanting to grow. You've been at this game for such a long time, potentially longer. In sales, then some of the people probably listening to the podcast have been alive and you're curious and you're asking questions and then it's about having systems so you can keep track of things if you want to operate and win at a bigger level, then you can't play pickup basketball at the YMCA, right?


    Like you've got to have a different process. So no, I appreciate all of that. So Grandpa Stork, where's the best place for people to find you, what you're working on? People listening to this, how can they connect with you? The kind of stuff you're doing.


    Grandpa: Oh, I will. Can the best place right now is a LinkedIn.


    I, the Rose of education has its own, a LinkedIn open group, but I've been doing a lot of posting of information, not only cyber security training, but more specifically, some of the dragons, fire, flying, a exercise of dragon flying game and working on right now is putting together a program for an orphanage here in Tanzania.


    And so we're looking to put through a program in August, we're going to get. Coconuts so the kids can make their own dragons age so they can learn the superhero game. And what it's really about is not about flying, but about really our conquering, our fear of falling and then failing and discovering our talents.


    And so LinkedIn is a great place, and actually we're having a little fundraiser. We're trying to raise $150 so that we can buy 60 coconuts, have them cut, get some paint and paint brushes for the 60 students. And then we'll do a whole month long project. And so we wanna invite people to. donate 5, 10, 20. It goes a long ways and we'll have much impact, much like the five day camp we did in Nairobi last year, where we had 120 kids.


    Yes, it was mayhem, beautiful mayhem, but That's the type of impact we're looking to have. We invite people to share and contribute. And we invite you too, Jason, to, give a little bit to the cause. People can donate by, paypal. me, paypal. me forward slash grandpa store. And, that's going, but so LinkedIn is a great place to connect.


    Facebook as well. We invite people to follow along and it's really living the dream and it's been amazing and really it's, it was my background and in sales and all the mentors and those people believed in me and just pushed me along that have led to where I am now. And so I'm really grateful for that.


    And having the time of my life at 61 years old and, Hey, you know what? I can't imagine doing anything else.


    Jason: There you go. So I'll put your link for LinkedIn in the show notes, but it's really easy. If anyone wants go in LinkedIn, just search Grandpa Stork, right? Sure. It'll be, it'll come up. Anthony Hall, grandpa Stork, just search Grandpa Stork.


    He's the only one in there. It's easy to find. Grandpa, thanks for joining me on the podcast today. I appreciate it.


    Grandpa: Hey Jason, thank you. Really appreciate. All the best and stay safe.


    Jason: Stay warm, brother. We'll do thanks. All right. That's it for the end of this conversation. That's it for part two Please make sure to get in contact follow Grandpa stork with what he's doing because again, it's just really cool different stuff.


    It will definitely Improve your feed donate to his charity if you can just support anything that he's doing It's that kind of positive stuff out there in the world that we all need more of And I will catch you on the next episode of the sales experience podcast. That's it for another episode of the sales experience podcast.


    Thank you so much for listening. If you find yourself on iTunes, can you leave the show a rating and a review? It helps other salespeople and sales leaders find the show. And please subscribe to the show and share episodes you find valuable with anyone you know in sales. Help me on my mission of changing the way.


    Sales is done. And if you're ready to work together, go to Jason cutter. com. Again, that's Jason cutter. com to find out how I can help you or your company create scalable sales success. I will see you on the next sales experience podcast episode, and keep in mind that everything in life is sales and people will remember the experience you gave them.


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By Jason Cutter February 19, 2025
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By Jason Cutter February 18, 2025
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By Jason Cutter February 17, 2025
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By Jason Cutter February 13, 2025
The Balance of Effort in Sales The blogs this week have been about the other person going most of the way. Whether it’s a prospective customer and your salesperson, where the salesperson truly can’t want the deal or make most of it happen for that customer to truly be successful. On the path for that prospect to becoming a customer, they should go at least 51/49. Whether it’s your team and their manager, the manager can’t want the team to succeed more than the team actually wants it for themselves. It’s not scalable for the coach (manager) to run on the field every play to win the game for the salespeople. What about sales ops processes and systems? What about the tools available to the sales team and the ones that are classified as sales enablement? In a reversal of philosophy, I believe the sales ops processes should go 90, the team should only have to go 10. Why Do We Need Salespeople? Let’s start where it matters – what is the point of having salespeople? I know many owners question the need and desire to have salespeople. They are hard to manage, tough to deal with, always want more money (potentially for doing less work and closing less deals), and are very resistant to change. Of course, that is a generalization. Of course, there are salespeople who don’t check those boxes. However, having worked with a lot of teams in a lot of industries, that generalization isn’t completely wrong or unfair. So if there is even a small part of that which is accurate, why would we even mess with the messiness of having salespeople? Of needing to employ and manage humans? The Human Element in Sales We need them. That’s why. Even in 2025, AI and technology has not successfully replicated the requirements of sales – which is about helping a human (prospect/customer) make the right decision and move outside of their comfort zone to buy something new. It still takes your human (salesperson) to persuade that other human. It’s why I say all the time that its not B2B, B2C, Retail, SaaS, etc. – it’s H2H. Sure, people can buy something online or even in a store without speaking to someone. But if it’s a considered purchase where there are options and decisions to be considered – it still takes a human being involved. That means ultimately your human (salesperson) has one job, and one job only – persuade the right prospective humans to buy. Minimizing Distractions for Salespeople Everything outside of that mission, task, focus is a distraction that takes away from their highest and best use. Imagine if we had a surgeon who had to prep the room, prep the patient, schedule the surgery and meetings, and do all the parts of the surgery themselves. Nope – they show up for the surgery and do what they do best. Then they take off their gown, gloves, and walk away to get cleaned up and move on to the next thing. Your goal as a sales ops leader is to support the team with systems and processes that allow them to focus on the one thing you need them for. The human part. It would be amazing if they could show up, talk to people, and make sales happen. Of course, there is more that they (and any professional) need to do before, during, and after the sales conversation. But your goal is to minimize all that. Every hour that your salespeople aren’t selling or doing sales-related activities, they aren’t moving revenue forward. The Ultimate Goal of Sales Ops What processes can you put in place that go 90 percent of the way, where the salesperson can do the last 10 percent? An example would be building an email campaign that runs automatically, and when the right people reply, the salesperson gets involved in getting that person from email to phone call. Another example would be your CRM serving up people for the salesperson to call – leads or anyone in the sales pipeline flow – with all the backstory, research, data, intel needed for them to review it then take action. What can you put into place that takes away as much distraction and effort from your sales team such that they can focus on the one thing you need to focus on – other humans?
By Jason Cutter February 12, 2025
The Danger of Doing Too Much as a Sales Leader Alright – so maybe they don’t need to go 90. In true servant leadership mode, you would go way more than 10% of the way to your team. But you have to be careful, as a sales leader. The inclination might be to do it all for them. To help them close their sales. To make excuses for them to your leadership as to why they aren’t closing more sales. Especially considering the very high likelihood that you are a sales manager because you were a great salesperson in the role that you are now managing. And there is a slight chance that you are a player-coach…so you are leading and selling. This can make it really tough not to want to run out on the field to win the game each time. But that doesn’t scale. That doesn’t lead to increased results. You can only sell so much as one person. Creating a Culture of Ownership So, you need to have people on your team that are coming to you. What does that look like? The pinnacle is a salesperson who doesn’t close a deal, comes to you right away and asks for feedback. They want some critiques as to where they could have done things better, different that would have led to the desired result – a closed sale. That takes a healthy level of ego by a professional who has the ultimate growth mindset. They know there are always ways to improve. They want to improve. And they are willing to risk their ego (and the internal, protective, primal part of our brain that doesn’t want to risk our place in the tribe) by asking for feedback that could be negative. Whenever you can, encourage that type of response. Ensure that the team knows that the team itself, and you as their leader, is a safe space – where the goal is to improve, grow, win and that everything done to support each other is done in that mode. They truly have to feel safe to share their mistakes and to get support in learning how to do more, better. Feedback That Drives Growth Part of this takes team and individual meetings that are actually filled with positive support. That doesn’t mean it’s always positive, motivational fluff. It’s not even about the shallow strategy of the feedback sandwich. Its about being real, honest, and empathetic – meaning “I see you are here, I know you want to be there, I will help you get there – even if its hard and it means saying hard things.” It should never feel mean or abusive or like an attack. But you can give some really direct feedback that will sting that ego I mentioned, but the person will know the intent behind it. The second part is hiring this type of person. Hiring people for the team that wants to win, grow, succeed. And they know that you don’t get better by being coddled, sheltered, or protected. You want people who don’t like the thought of perpetually living safely in their comfort zone. And they are excited about the opportunity to be a part of a team that pushes everyone, empathetically, outside of their comfort zone. Are You Leading or Just Managing? If you find yourself as a leader having to push your team, or going to them most of the time, or most of the way mentally – then they see you as a manager not a leader. They see you as someone who manages them, pushes them, and wants them to do things they don’t want to do. I have written some blogs here that go into what your role should be – as a leader, not a manager. Pulling people along with you, inspiring people, and supporting yourself with a team of people who want to win. Not just those that want to show up, do as little as they can and hopefully go unnoticed (yet – complain about not making enough money and how the comp plan isn’t fair, or the leads are bad, or their schedule means they can’t be successful.) Make sure your team knows that they need to come to you – at least 51/49. They should be asking for help, guidance, training, feedback, and support more than you are having to push it down onto them.
By Jason Cutter February 3, 2025
If you have seen the movie Hitch, then you know the scene. Will Smith’s character (Hitch) is trying to coach Kevin James’ character (Albert) on how to finish out his upcoming first date. He is giving him pointers, one being that if his date fumbles with her keys at the door, it could mean she wants a kiss. So Hitch wants to see if Albert knows what to do – for a good night kiss. Hitch gives him the advice “you go 90 percent, and then wait for her to go 10%” which Albert then asks “wait for how long?” Hitch: “as long as it takes.” Albert leads in, Hitch is holding back to see if Albert will wait, and then Albert goes all the way and gives him a kiss. Hitch gets upset, and says “You go 90, I go 10 – you don’t go the whole 100%.” The Sales Analogy Kissing our prospective customers is not acceptable (just ask HR!). But the concept is the same. You don’t want to ever make 100% of the effort for your prospective customers. You don’t want to be the one who is doing all the work. Fundamentally, it is not good practice to want the deal more than the other person. When you go your 90, you need to wait – as long as it takes – for the prospect to go to their 10. And I would say that you want to go somewhere between 10-49, in reality. How Successful Sales Professionals Balance Effort Successful sales professionals know how far they have to go to meet the prospect where they are, while also knowing how much effort the prospect needs to put in to show they are committed. Where most salespeople get in trouble is they get desperate. They want the sale (kiss) more than the other person and they go the full 100%. Of course, persistence is important. And you won’t get what you don’t ask for (although…if you have followed me for any length of time, you will know I am very against having to ask for the sale). But you also have to ensure that your prospects actually want what you are selling. And they want it for their reasons and their motivations. They are driven to pursue your production option(s). They must go 10, 40, 60% of the way to you. The Pitfall of Chasing Your Prospect Just like courtship and relationships – if you find yourself chasing and one-sided-pursing the other person then it means you want it more than they do. It also means they own you. You are essentially begging them for the relationship – convincing, manipulating, begging, bribing, persuading your way forward. Which means they consciously and/or subconsciously know that they are in control. Because if they say no, you will keep pursuing and offering solutions. In sales – that looks like a salesperson who is calling, emailing, stalking a prospect – making offers, offering discounts and trials, and trying to find any way to make deal work. They are going 90-100% of the way for the prospect, not requiring them to go anywhere towards the agreement. This will end terribly. If they do decide to buy – taking the discount, free trial, taking the sale bait – they will not be happy (since they weren’t bought in for their reasons), they will look for reasons confirming why they didn’t really want to buy anyway, and they will know that they own you. Your company will have to convince them on a regular basis to stay in the relationship. The Right Balance for Customer Ownership You fundamentally need that prospective customer to come to you. Not 100% where you are just an Order Taker. But potentially 51% of the way – so they want it more than you. The more you can get them across that 50/50 threshold, the more they will be a satisfied customer. But remember – at 51/49 – they still need persuading, they still need to understand the value of your product for where they ultimately want to be in their life/business, and they still need your support. They lean in the right amount, you lean in the right amount = sales magic!
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