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[E241] Build Your Confidence – And Network – with Travis Chappell (Part 1)

January 16, 2024



What if you sold based on relationships?


What if you sold based on relationships?


What if you had the confidence to preserve until you were successful?


On this 3-part series I have Travis Chappell, who among many things (See bio below) has been selling since he was a kid and has so many lessons/insights to share.


I wasn’t a sales-kid, Travis was – so we start off talking about what that was like for him, and what he learned from it (including the value of Door-To-Door sales).




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  • Show Transcript

    Jason: Welcome to the sales experience podcast. On today's guest session, I have Mr. Travis Chappell. So Travis is a podcast consultant and professional connector. He is the founder of the Procast Media, which is a full stack podcast production company specialized in helping a busy entrepreneurs produce profitable podcasts.


    And he's the host of two amazing shows, Build Your Network and World Class. So in addition to being featured in Entrepreneur, NASDAQ and ReadWrite, Travis has also been featured in Forbes as a top 10 podcast that will change your life along some names that people are probably familiar with, like Joe Rogan, Gary Vaynerchuk, and Tim Ferriss and people like that.


    So in this episode, in this conversation, yes, he is a podcast guy and he is a connector. Build Your Network is really about relationships. But in this conversation, we end with talking about relationships and connections. And the build your network kind of model. But where we start is how he is opposite than me, where he grew up in a sales household.


    He grew up selling at a young age and kept going with that. And so we talk about his journey, the lessons he learned a lot of things where he and I, at this point in our lives, we feel the same way about sales and selling and what sales people and what sales professionals should be doing as part of their process, even though we took two different journeys.


    So this is a different approach. to the sales process coming from someone who started at a very young age and then ended up to where he is. So here it is. Enjoy this conversation between myself and Travis. Travis, welcome to the sales experience podcast.


    Travis: Jason, thanks so much for having me, man.


    Happy to be here.


    Jason: I am excited. I talked to a lot of different people on the show and a wide range coaches, consultants. You have a very interesting background that I love from a sales perspective. And then what you're doing now with some projects, I guess the place I wanted to start with is actually talking about the sales part.


    When you grew up, some people like myself didn't grow up selling. Like I grew up in an anti sales household. That wasn't a thing for me. I'm not somebody who's been selling for a long time, but you on the other hand, that's a little bit different. You actually started your sales career pretty young, right?


    Travis: Yeah, pretty young. I grew up in a real estate household. So was in a sales household. When I was a little kid, just had that entrepreneurial itch and started selling stuff to other kids at elementary school recess. Drop off lines and all that good stuff. And then started my first business when I was 16, 17, and we're doing landscaping and doing a bunch of manual labor for a while.


    So yeah, just the desire to have money definitely has been in me for a long time.


    Jason: Which again, I think is fascinating because there's some people let's say also the Gary V's of the world, where they tell their stories and they've been at sales for a long time. And then there's other people who didn't grow up that way.


    So I think it's fascinating because I usually have the people who fell into sales accidentally on the show, that perspective, but to hear someone like you on the show, which is you started young, you grew up in a sales related household, then you hit it.


    Travis: Yeah, honestly, man, we were, we was really just like selling religion was the thing that I did when I was a kid.


    I grew up in a super strict small religious bubble type community. And I wouldn't describe it as saying a cult because it was technically a cult, but it definitely had some cultish tendencies and characteristics. And so that was a unique way to grow up from the time I was seven years old or whatever it was.


    We were knocking on doors every Weekend inviting people to come to church and like trying to talk to people about religion and stuff like that So I just was something that I always did the interesting thing though is that a lot of people that I knew that I grew up with did the same thing and grew up The same way that I did and none of them do what I do So it is interesting to talk like the personality versus learned Discussion is definitely an interesting discussion because I feel like I was raised the same way A lot of other people were raised in that culture in that community Even my sister grew up in the same household that i'm in and we just went totally completely opposite ways with what we ended up doing so It is interesting for sure.


    I just fell into doing selling when I was in college and stuck with it for a while. Cause that was just a core competency that I had.


    Jason: Yeah. Which is that whole nature versus nurture kind of conversation. I know there's several studies out there where there's twins who were separated at birth and grew up in different households and what they have in common and then what's like completely different for them.


    Is there anything that you still remember or you use longterm from those? seven, eight, nine year old days of knocking on doors and tagging along with the parents to get people to go to church.


    Travis: Not really, except for the knowledge that I could knock on doors and be okay at the end of the day, I think just a lot of people don't do those types of things because they don't feel like The thought of doing it makes them too anxious to even try doing it If anything I can take away from the fact that I did it and it was okay you didn't melt when you made an ask yet That was actually probably one thing that I took away from that and that I used in sales Of course when I got into sales, I re learned the principal, but there was always like making an ask.


    That was something that we were taught when we were knocking doors to try to get people to come to church. It was always making an ask, like whether it's like we get into serious conversations, man. It's super weird looking back now because it'd be so weird if some 13 year old kid knocked on my door and asked me like where I was going to spend eternity.

    But that's the kind of stuff that I was asking fully grown adult. So I learned how to be like unabashed. Unashamedly selling the product that I had to sell, which at the time was religion. And at least if it wasn't like that question, it was at least a, would you come to church with me question. There was always an ask.


    And I always had the ask that kind of learned that from a pretty young age, that there always had to be an ask, not just like a generic conversation around where you were talking or what you were talking about.


    Jason: Yeah. You weren't knocking on doors. You weren't going through that process just to make friends or.


    Have a conversation long enough where somebody wanted whatever you had without you having to ask for it.


    Travis: Yeah, it was definitely like, okay, let's get to the point where you bring them to church or you talk to them about Jesus or whatever it was. You know what I mean? But yeah, they, they train that to everybody that went out.


    We called it soul winning. So every Saturday we had Saturday morning soul winning. And we'd go out in the community and knock on doors for a couple of hours and then go get like a slushie or something and go home.


    Jason: Hey, it's Jason here. We'll be right back to the podcast. But first, are you ready to change the way you view your selling role and become a sales professional?


    Do you have a team that is hungry for new ways to improve and grow? If so, I have various coaching and consulting programs available. That might be great tools to help you achieve your goals. To learn more about the ways we can work together and to book your free sales, power call, go to Jason cutter. com.


    Now let's get back to the episode. And I think what's interesting about that point, there's a couple of them is that. There's a lot of people in sales who I use the term order taker where they're in a sales role. They're having conversations. They're either afraid to ask. They don't know how to ask.


    They're afraid of being that manipulator shark that people don't like because maybe they had bad experiences growing up or as a customer. And so they just shy away from it. And that's the part of the sales process. Otherwise you're just taking orders. And it's about doing that properly. Yep, 100 percent man.


    And what's really interesting is that in all my experience of leading teams and seeing salespeople, some of the most successful ones, especially from a phone sales perspective, spent time knocking on doors in some capacity in sales. And if you can knock on doors and you can get doors slammed in your face or people to threaten you face to face, I know people who have guns pulled on them face in person knocking on doors.


    You go into any other sales role other than that, and it's easy.


    Travis: Yeah, it's definitely anchors that emotion at a different place when you are used to selling that way. So in college, that's when I started in door to door and did that for six, seven years after that. So when I got into what I do now, you're totally right, man.


    Like it's so much easier to do what I do now, to sell the things that I'd sell now than it was to knock on doors. But that definitely wouldn't trade that experience for anything. It was very useful time.


    Jason: No, I think that's valuable. I don't know if I would make that a requirement for salespeople to do when they start out, but there's something very fundamental that helps you learn some skills, how to be tenacious, how to not give up if you want to be successful in it.


    And then also relative.


    Travis: Yeah. And I like that it teaches you how to be resourceful, almost like lead generator as well. It makes you way more grateful for leads that come in. It gives you a lot more empathy for like where the lead came from. You know what I mean? If you spend time on both sides of the equation, a lot of salespeople that I've interacted with that never had to do what I did, like they just get leads that populate into their CRM every day.


    And then they whine and complain about the leads all day long and how horrible they are and how it's not their fault that they're not closing. Like those are the people I just want to like shake them and just be like. Do you realize the gold that you're being given every single day? It's your job to make the most of this now.


    Stop whining, stop making excuses, and start closing some deals. You know what I mean? Because I woke up every day being 100 percent commissioned. No salary, no guarantee, no nothing. And I had to go out every day, on doors, generate leads, and close them in the same day. And sign the contract and get it installed before they laid their head on the pillow that night.


    And every day I had to go out and redo that process. So it definitely gave me an appreciation for marketing and lead generation and what it means to generate quality leads because I had to do all sides of the equation.


    Jason: And I will tell you once again, from my experience, the people who spent time knocking on doors, when you hand that person a lead, they are so grateful and thankful, right?


    They're not in the cold. They're not in the hot. Some people are knocking on doors in places where the seasons are just rough on all extremes. Because I've also seen what you're talking about, which is the people literally with their feet up waiting for new leads, complaining about what they've got and pointing the finger at marketing versus appreciating it.


    Travis: Yep. And then marketing pointing the finger at them and saying you should be selling. We're generating the leads. And it's just this big. If people just had that attitude of gratefulness. That's why I like what door did for me. Cause it put me in that attitude of gratefulness. When I have leads on my calendar that came in through automated things that I'm doing in marketing, it's just you know what, that beats the hell out of going out right now and 108 degrees and knocking on doors.


    Jason: And I think that's a good life lesson too, right? Obviously it's a sales related podcast, but talking about life in general, that's one of the biggest lessons I've learned at this point in my life is that everything is relative and you can appreciate where you're at now. If you look back at those tough times, if you've ever gone through.


    Really hard times where life has punched you in the face and knocked you down and you had to get up and it's what I'm going through right now isn't that hard. It's not as tough as I've seen before and not saying it's not bad, but just like you've survived other things. And it's it's not that bad.


    Travis: Yeah. And really, it's just understanding that if you can never master or learn the art of being grateful and thankful for life in the times that are not good. Yeah. Then you are subjecting yourself knowingly and willingly to a life of a roller coaster, because that is literally what life is. It's full of ups and it's full of downs.


    And if you kept riding the roller coaster, instead of trying to be that steady person throughout all of it, like I said, you are willingly and knowingly subjecting yourself to whatever life has to throw at you. I don't think the people who enjoy their lives go throughout life living it like that. I think the people who enjoy their lives are the ones who learn how to be grateful for the good times and learn how to be grateful for the bad times and in the bad times because it's just part of how it goes.


    It's part of the journey. And is it ideal sometimes? No, but like you grow. through the struggles more than you'll ever grow when you're not struggling like the discomfort is what forces you to grow and turn you into a better person and make you a better person on the other side of something and if you can't ever learn to cope with that and you just retreat and retreat into whatever it might be even if it's like an escape like alcohol or smoking weed or Whatever other types of things, if you can't deal with those problems, then they're never going to go away.


    And you're only waiting for the awesome part of life, which most of the time won't even come until you figure out how to get through the struggles and come out on the other end without being totally beat up and ready to quit. So yeah, I think that's definitely a lesson to take throughout life is if you can't be happy, you can't be fulfilled.

    You can't be grateful during the times that aren't going to super according to plan then. You may as well just write out a statement right now, just get out a piece of paper and write out a statement that says, I will never be 100 percent happy being at peace. And if you're okay with that, cool, learn how to live life, go throughout the rest of your life riding the roller coaster.


    But if you look at that statement and you're not willing to write it out because you're like, wow, I'm giving up ultimate control over my own happiness and fulfillment in life, then you should probably start figuring out how to be grateful and happy during the struggles and the bad times too, because that's part of the prescription of life, man.


    Jason: I love it. I'm so glad that you covered that. Obviously it's a sales related podcast. That's totally life lesson. And what I'll say is that also totally applies in sales as well. For anyone listening, who's in sales also is your sales career will be ups and downs. You go through slumps constantly. There will be a bad week or a bad month or a bad quarter.


    And can you pull yourself out of it? Or are you just going to ignore it, put your head in the sand and just wait for the good leads to start coming in? Or can you embrace it, recognize it because it happens and then tweak whatever needs to be tweaked to get you back in the game.


    Travis: Take responsibility, get proactive and decide that it's up to you.


    Not up to whatever life throws at you.


    Jason: All right. That's it for my first part of the conversation with Travis. As you can tell, we're just going to keep rolling. We're going to talk about sales throughout this. We'll get to relationship and network in part three. Make sure to subscribe so you can get every single episode and that you can keep up with this conversation and all the other ones that I have with amazing guests like Travis.


    If you want to find out more information about how to reach Travis, the best thing to do is go to cutter consulting group. com slash podcast. You can find his information there as well as the show notes, and I'm going to leave you like I always do keep in mind that everything in life is sales and people remember the experience you gave them.


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The Danger of Doing Too Much as a Sales Leader Alright – so maybe they don’t need to go 90. In true servant leadership mode, you would go way more than 10% of the way to your team. But you have to be careful, as a sales leader. The inclination might be to do it all for them. To help them close their sales. To make excuses for them to your leadership as to why they aren’t closing more sales. Especially considering the very high likelihood that you are a sales manager because you were a great salesperson in the role that you are now managing. And there is a slight chance that you are a player-coach…so you are leading and selling. This can make it really tough not to want to run out on the field to win the game each time. But that doesn’t scale. That doesn’t lead to increased results. You can only sell so much as one person. Creating a Culture of Ownership So, you need to have people on your team that are coming to you. What does that look like? The pinnacle is a salesperson who doesn’t close a deal, comes to you right away and asks for feedback. They want some critiques as to where they could have done things better, different that would have led to the desired result – a closed sale. That takes a healthy level of ego by a professional who has the ultimate growth mindset. They know there are always ways to improve. They want to improve. And they are willing to risk their ego (and the internal, protective, primal part of our brain that doesn’t want to risk our place in the tribe) by asking for feedback that could be negative. Whenever you can, encourage that type of response. Ensure that the team knows that the team itself, and you as their leader, is a safe space – where the goal is to improve, grow, win and that everything done to support each other is done in that mode. They truly have to feel safe to share their mistakes and to get support in learning how to do more, better. Feedback That Drives Growth Part of this takes team and individual meetings that are actually filled with positive support. That doesn’t mean it’s always positive, motivational fluff. It’s not even about the shallow strategy of the feedback sandwich. Its about being real, honest, and empathetic – meaning “I see you are here, I know you want to be there, I will help you get there – even if its hard and it means saying hard things.” It should never feel mean or abusive or like an attack. But you can give some really direct feedback that will sting that ego I mentioned, but the person will know the intent behind it. The second part is hiring this type of person. Hiring people for the team that wants to win, grow, succeed. And they know that you don’t get better by being coddled, sheltered, or protected. You want people who don’t like the thought of perpetually living safely in their comfort zone. And they are excited about the opportunity to be a part of a team that pushes everyone, empathetically, outside of their comfort zone. Are You Leading or Just Managing? If you find yourself as a leader having to push your team, or going to them most of the time, or most of the way mentally – then they see you as a manager not a leader. They see you as someone who manages them, pushes them, and wants them to do things they don’t want to do. I have written some blogs here that go into what your role should be – as a leader, not a manager. Pulling people along with you, inspiring people, and supporting yourself with a team of people who want to win. Not just those that want to show up, do as little as they can and hopefully go unnoticed (yet – complain about not making enough money and how the comp plan isn’t fair, or the leads are bad, or their schedule means they can’t be successful.) Make sure your team knows that they need to come to you – at least 51/49. They should be asking for help, guidance, training, feedback, and support more than you are having to push it down onto them.
By Jason Cutter February 3, 2025
If you have seen the movie Hitch, then you know the scene. Will Smith’s character (Hitch) is trying to coach Kevin James’ character (Albert) on how to finish out his upcoming first date. He is giving him pointers, one being that if his date fumbles with her keys at the door, it could mean she wants a kiss. So Hitch wants to see if Albert knows what to do – for a good night kiss. Hitch gives him the advice “you go 90 percent, and then wait for her to go 10%” which Albert then asks “wait for how long?” Hitch: “as long as it takes.” Albert leads in, Hitch is holding back to see if Albert will wait, and then Albert goes all the way and gives him a kiss. Hitch gets upset, and says “You go 90, I go 10 – you don’t go the whole 100%.” The Sales Analogy Kissing our prospective customers is not acceptable (just ask HR!). But the concept is the same. You don’t want to ever make 100% of the effort for your prospective customers. You don’t want to be the one who is doing all the work. Fundamentally, it is not good practice to want the deal more than the other person. When you go your 90, you need to wait – as long as it takes – for the prospect to go to their 10. And I would say that you want to go somewhere between 10-49, in reality. How Successful Sales Professionals Balance Effort Successful sales professionals know how far they have to go to meet the prospect where they are, while also knowing how much effort the prospect needs to put in to show they are committed. Where most salespeople get in trouble is they get desperate. They want the sale (kiss) more than the other person and they go the full 100%. Of course, persistence is important. And you won’t get what you don’t ask for (although…if you have followed me for any length of time, you will know I am very against having to ask for the sale). But you also have to ensure that your prospects actually want what you are selling. And they want it for their reasons and their motivations. They are driven to pursue your production option(s). They must go 10, 40, 60% of the way to you. The Pitfall of Chasing Your Prospect Just like courtship and relationships – if you find yourself chasing and one-sided-pursing the other person then it means you want it more than they do. It also means they own you. You are essentially begging them for the relationship – convincing, manipulating, begging, bribing, persuading your way forward. Which means they consciously and/or subconsciously know that they are in control. Because if they say no, you will keep pursuing and offering solutions. In sales – that looks like a salesperson who is calling, emailing, stalking a prospect – making offers, offering discounts and trials, and trying to find any way to make deal work. They are going 90-100% of the way for the prospect, not requiring them to go anywhere towards the agreement. This will end terribly. If they do decide to buy – taking the discount, free trial, taking the sale bait – they will not be happy (since they weren’t bought in for their reasons), they will look for reasons confirming why they didn’t really want to buy anyway, and they will know that they own you. Your company will have to convince them on a regular basis to stay in the relationship. The Right Balance for Customer Ownership You fundamentally need that prospective customer to come to you. Not 100% where you are just an Order Taker. But potentially 51% of the way – so they want it more than you. The more you can get them across that 50/50 threshold, the more they will be a satisfied customer. But remember – at 51/49 – they still need persuading, they still need to understand the value of your product for where they ultimately want to be in their life/business, and they still need your support. They lean in the right amount, you lean in the right amount = sales magic!
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