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E144: Effective Networking with Adam Connors – Part 3 of 4

January 5, 2024


What key strategies for effective hiring and creating a positive sales experience emerge from their conversation?


This is part three of the conversation I had with Adam. 

In Part 3, Adam and I talk about:



  • Doing LinkedIn the right way
  • The constant focus on winning by cold calling
  • How do you want to start a relationship?
  • Corporate culture trickling down to the sales team
  • The future of funnels


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Adam’s Info:


Adam Connors is the Founder & CEO of NetWorkWise, a company that expedites outcomes for individuals and organizations by providing education in the science and art of networking. He’s a sought-after speaker who empowers people through online training and in-person workshops with the expertise to cultivate world-class relationships. He is the podcast host of Conversations with Connors and creator of the esteemed NetWorkWise Certification, a credential that validates the accomplishment of being a leader in fostering connectivity.

An entrepreneur at heart, for more than 20 years Adam has been influential in developing companies across various industries, including three executive search firms in multiple verticals and a boutique career consulting business. He has inspired countless management consultants, technology startup executives, and Fortune 500 leaders to unlock higher performance and build successful careers.


Adam’s Links:

Website:
 https://www.networkwise.com/

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https://www.facebook.com/TheNetWorkWise/

Twitter: 
https://twitter.com/thenetworkwise

Instagram: 
https://www.instagram.com/networkwise/

Youtube: 
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_GuuTjdzX92sVsQaN4iNWAPodcast: https://www.networkwise.com/podcast/

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  • Show Transcript

    Jason: Welcome back to the sales experience podcast. Welcome to part three of the conversation Adam and I had, my name is Jason cutter, so glad you’re here. If you haven’t made sure to check out the first two parts as this will make sense by itself, but it’s more fun if you hear the whole conversation where he and I are just on a roll all over the place. But it’s so valuable whether you’re in sales as a salesperson, networking, relationship building sales in general. We talk about LinkedIn and all kinds of strategies and then also if you’re a manager, a leader, an owner, you know on how to approach sales, how to focus on it, how to build a good culture from the top down. It’s all important. And again, my personal focus is on the sales experience. What that’s like for you as a salesperson and your organization and then also for your customer.


    Jason: What that experience is like. And kind of in the vein of what Adam and I talk about a lot in this conversation. The long conversation we’ve had is that it’s about relationship, it’s about giving to other people, it’s about helping other people in what they’re looking for and get them to a better place and having those relationships, those conversations, and then ultimately knowing that at some point you will get yours. It’s what I’ve always done in my sales career is to help other people get what they need. Not at my benefit. Only like not as a lose win or a win-win. Sometimes it’s helping somebody else get what they need and eventually you will get yours. So here we are part three, enjoy.


    Adam: But again, just to keep in mind that it’s a tool. It’s not necessarily across, you know, you’re building a house, your relationships are the house. You can’t build it just with a hammer. You know you need nails, you need screwdrivers, you know you need plywood and stone and electric and all these other things that you need in order to build a really nice house. And the same with some of these relationships. So you need to meet in person, you need to be able to make phone calls. You need to be able to send texts, you need to be able to send emails, all those things combined to really build that relationship house.


    Jason: So if we’re talking about online, because we’re both on LinkedIn a lot and we both probably get this a lot where people are networking or trying to network through something like LinkedIn or online, especially for business purposes. What is your framework? What do you teach your clients, students or whatever you call them, like how do you teach them what to do? Because I think we might even talked about this initially where like I accept all LinkedIn requests, connection requests and as time’s been going on the last few months, I started to regret that philosophy a little bit because of the instance sales pitches that I’m getting. Just you know, long winded stuff.


    Adam: It’s amazing. So I used to guard mine like crazy and I never accepted anybody and I, and I am actually wishing that I kept to this. Also. The reason I did not, it’s just because I needed to bring more people in to get my message out more. So I really wish I set up and maybe I still might do, I still might set up another account, kind of like my kids, they have like, it’s called a Finsta, which is like their retold offense. This stands for fake Instagram, but actually their fences, their real Instagram. But that’s a whole other topic of conversation. But to answer your question, yeah, I’m disgusted with LinkedIn to be honest with you. The abuse that’s going on, I’ve actually set my, although I love it, I used the tool every day, but I’m disgusted with the of professionalism or lack of sales that people have.


    Adam: Have they just, they put no thought into anything. Just like what you said, they just send a blogging instinct or request. So it’s not even customized. That’s the first thing. So what I used to do as just an automatic delete in my box and what I also did, I set up, I made my name Adam R on LinkedIn because this way I can tell if someone just hit that instant invite button because then it’ll say Adam R as opposed to, you know, just Adam. And I don’t know if I’m articulating that well, so I can tell him immediately anything that comes up and I see Adam or I don’t even finish reading because I know that they’ve just hit collect. So anyways, so, so I feel like that’s just such, it’s so lazy, you know, not even to say, Hey Jason, your PO, you know, take a minute or two to do a little review on you. Jason saw your pie or heard your podcast. It’s great. Or Jason, you know, you’ve been in sales for all these years. I liked your profile and I’d be interested in connecting with you. You know, just something just so simple. And like you said, it’s like almost offensive. Then when you connect and then they immediately just try to sell you, like you said, this long winded email so that they, you know, that that’s just cut and paste. I just think that’s such poor form and that’s the antithesis of building a relationship.


    Jason: Yeah. I mean, it feels like the online equivalent of just robo dialing, cold calling and you and reaching out and pitching people, which you know, here’s the thing, right? In defense of those strategies, obviously if they’re still around, they work, right? And so people keep buying billboards and paying for billboards because they think it works or you know, they feel it works. The same thing, robo dials, cold calls, all of that stuff works. There’s a lot of people in the business of sales which will stand by cold calls at scale as the best way to grow and build their business and make sales. And people do that on, let’s say LinkedIn as well. And of course it works some percentage of the time it’s going to work. Just depends. Is that your approach, which is the pray and spray or are you about relationships and building it that way and quality or quantity and then how do you really want to start a relationship off with a prospective client?


    Adam: When you’re were saying, listen, I’ll take four quarters over a hundred pennies any day.


    Jason: That’s awesome.


    Adam: Yeah. But yeah, I mean, again, to your point that’s just, that just shows, no, I mean, I don’t know. Maybe that’s just my own ego and you know, you know what they say, your ego is not your amigo. But I would personally find it, you know, very shallow to just send some kind of canned LinkedIn message to somebody. I think that’s just, I feel like I’m better than that, you know? So that’s just my own, again, egotistical perspective.


    Jason: Well and uh, you know, and what that tells me as well and cause I get these also is uh, you know, you or I are not their target client who, you know, fits with their kind of core values or their focus. Right. Cause I think a lot of this, and this conversation comes up a lot more these days, it feels like, but where in sale, you know, where people in sales are a direct reflection of the company they work for. You know, it’s their own personality and who they are. But the company is set by the culture, the vision, the mission , the core values and all of that comes from the top. And what does that organization stand for? Even if it’s an organization of one, what are your values? What is your mission, what is your focus? And then you know, that will translate into everything.


    Jason: If your mission is just, you know, turn and burn and find as many, you know, the old, find them, fleece them and forget them. Like if you’re just in a transactional, like just go after a mode, then you know that’s going to be reflective in your conversations with process, with how people feel. It’s kind of why, like my focus is on the sales experience, which is how do your customers feel and how do you feel about them and the process and you know, it’s like when I get those kinds of messages or those kinds of phone calls or those kinds of emails is saying, okay, so this is enough of an indicator about your culture or your values or your focus as a business. Are you trying to help me? Are you trying to provide value or are you just trying to get something from me?


    Adam: Yeah, well said. Completely. Great.


    Jason: Which then segues into you with the networking model, which then going back to what we talked about, which is giving and helping other people and then ultimately playing the long game and knowing that it’ll all work out.


    Adam: Yes. Yeah. And it’s totally different philosophies from praying spray.


    Jason: Yeah. So spray and pray, pray and spray. I mean if I pray spray and pray again. Uh, I don’t know. Yeah, so you know, there’s a bunch of questions I’ve been trying to ask guests. I’m sure listeners are now probably tired of me talking about the questions I’m not asking even though I probably could, but you know, our conversation, I love that it’s just fluid. One question I have, because you’ve dealt with this a lot and you said one of your core strengths is hiring people, building teams, finding that you know, relationships and all of that part is, you know, if you were to hire good sales people, even if you say that you’re a horrible salesperson, you know, what is it that you look for, what you know, what does that hiring process, how do you find those people looking?


    Adam: I mean, it would depend on what the job, the sales job, because everyone’s a little different. But you know, when I’ve historically hired, it’s a pretty big funnel. You know, just like a sales funnel. Yeah. You got to kind of start wide and open and bring people down the sales funnel. So you know, at first it’s, you know, if you’re not, let’s just say you’re not finding someone already through your network for some reason you’ve exhausted that. You’re identifying, you know, you’re putting together the core values of whatever it is that you’re looking for. So again, someone with the integrity, someone with a level of curiosity, someone with also who has grit, someone doesn’t take things personally. Let’s just say that those, you know, someone who’s got some energy and some likeability. So let’s say that’s what you’re looking for. You know, you create a job description that defines the success, not necessarily the day to day.


    Adam: You know, what is it that you are doing? What is it that you are accomplishing? You know, what’s the mission that they’re going on? Because people, you know, they join jobs for what they’re going to do in the future. Not necessarily, or, or if you’re hiring, that’s how you should be hiring people, not for the job today, but what you can turn them into. So you’ve got to make it a very attractive job description. You bring people into this funnel. And what I’ve done is I’ve, which has helped me significantly, and I wish I learned this a long time ago because it would’ve saved myself a lot of times. I hope whoever’s listening really does listen is give them at the end of whatever the job description is, give them a duty or two to show that number one that they’ve read the entire job description. So at the end of that description, Hey, you know, uh, you know, provide a sentence or two, something even that simple as to what it is about, you know, network wise that attracted you to this position. And you’d be surprised. I will bet 80% of the people will not even take a minute to do that. So you’ve now wiped out 80% and it’s a shame some people are going to be good but you, but again getting back to the details like you were in the midst of that. I know you wouldn’t miss that.


    Jason: No, not if it’s something that I wanted and it was you know, seriously something I was looking into and it was interesting. No and can I do the same thing? Like I always put something at the end of any job, post job description and again you know to your comment about well you’re going to miss out on some good people. In my experience everyone is who they are in all facets. Like you are who you are. You can’t change, you can’t run from it. Sometimes you can kind of push it aside. But how you are at work, how you are at home, like how you are in life, how you operate as how you operate. And so somebody who isn’t going to read through all of that, we’ll get into your sales role if you hire them or into your company and they will also not follow through. They will not get to the end of things. They will, you know, get excited and start things but they won’t make sure all the details are are completed and generally salespeople are bad at the details and it’s when you don’t have those hoops for them, then you let in anybody and then you know you end up with what you get.


    Adam: Well I got more hoops. You want me to continue the process? So you do that. Let’s assume that you caught that detail and you followed through and you came in and we had a good meeting. You know I was impressed. You were articulate. You seem to share some of these core values. You’d done your homework, you had good energy, yada yada. Check the boxes. Okay Jason, it was awesome meeting you. Here’s something that I’d like to see you do before our next meeting and give something simple or really just like a very, just a show your follow-through or that you paid attention and again you need a lot of people. Probably half at that point half we’re going to probably drop off and it’s disappointing. But let’s assume that you did do it. You know you did it, you followed through. You even sent a thank you, which by the way, most people don’t do these days.


    Adam: So that’s the other, that’s another time where I’ll lose people where they don’t take a minute to do a thank you. Even just a basic psyche. And then once they’ve come in, then again, then it comes about, you do another round of interviews and then you do the references and I can’t begin to tell you how many reference checks that I’ve had that are just bogus references, you know, these are the people. Yeah. Again, I, you know the reference a lot of times people like, Oh, what’d you get to the reference that’s canned in that’s in the bag. No, you know, when someone’s doing, and this is maybe just advice for in general, you know, when I’ve asked someone to be my reference, I asked them, what would you say? What would you say? Because that’s important, you know, would be, you know, so when I’ve called on the references, you know, I don’t want to know about how great you are.


    Adam: You’re a reference. I want to know, you know, tell me about, you know, tell me about Jason. What are the things that I should focus on to get the best out of him? And when you ask that question, you know you’re going to again open up Pandora’s box because now you’ve quietly asked her, I will quietly inquired about your weaknesses. And if someone’s going to just blow smoke and just say there are no weaknesses if it’s not a legitimate reference and I can’t get discounted. Right? So to kind of take this on a different tangent, but I think that that’s important as salespeople really, really hard to find good sales people. And also if maybe anyone that’s listening is a salesperson that’s looking for a job, these are the things that you need to be thinking about. Because if you’re also in sales, your buyer is going to be in the details. Your buyer is they’re going to be looking for all the reasons not to engage your services or they’re going to be comparing you to somebody else and the person that goes that extra step is going to get this going to get that job or they are going to get that sale because that’s where they, you know, that’s how competitive it is.


    Jason: Alright. That’s it for part three. Make sure to check out tomorrow’s episodes can be the final part of our conversation. Adam and I obviously having some fun. You can check out his links. Go to cutterconsultinggroup.com you can go to the podcast page, find this episode, all of the past episodes, the transcription for this conversation, this part of it, as well as Adam’s links for his podcast, his website, his projects, his LinkedIn, all of that. And as always, keep in mind, everything in life is sales and people remember the experience you gave them.


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The Balance of Effort in Sales The blogs this week have been about the other person going most of the way. Whether it’s a prospective customer and your salesperson, where the salesperson truly can’t want the deal or make most of it happen for that customer to truly be successful. On the path for that prospect to becoming a customer, they should go at least 51/49. Whether it’s your team and their manager, the manager can’t want the team to succeed more than the team actually wants it for themselves. It’s not scalable for the coach (manager) to run on the field every play to win the game for the salespeople. What about sales ops processes and systems? What about the tools available to the sales team and the ones that are classified as sales enablement? In a reversal of philosophy, I believe the sales ops processes should go 90, the team should only have to go 10. Why Do We Need Salespeople? Let’s start where it matters – what is the point of having salespeople? I know many owners question the need and desire to have salespeople. They are hard to manage, tough to deal with, always want more money (potentially for doing less work and closing less deals), and are very resistant to change. Of course, that is a generalization. Of course, there are salespeople who don’t check those boxes. However, having worked with a lot of teams in a lot of industries, that generalization isn’t completely wrong or unfair. So if there is even a small part of that which is accurate, why would we even mess with the messiness of having salespeople? Of needing to employ and manage humans? The Human Element in Sales We need them. That’s why. Even in 2025, AI and technology has not successfully replicated the requirements of sales – which is about helping a human (prospect/customer) make the right decision and move outside of their comfort zone to buy something new. It still takes your human (salesperson) to persuade that other human. It’s why I say all the time that its not B2B, B2C, Retail, SaaS, etc. – it’s H2H. Sure, people can buy something online or even in a store without speaking to someone. But if it’s a considered purchase where there are options and decisions to be considered – it still takes a human being involved. That means ultimately your human (salesperson) has one job, and one job only – persuade the right prospective humans to buy. Minimizing Distractions for Salespeople Everything outside of that mission, task, focus is a distraction that takes away from their highest and best use. Imagine if we had a surgeon who had to prep the room, prep the patient, schedule the surgery and meetings, and do all the parts of the surgery themselves. Nope – they show up for the surgery and do what they do best. Then they take off their gown, gloves, and walk away to get cleaned up and move on to the next thing. Your goal as a sales ops leader is to support the team with systems and processes that allow them to focus on the one thing you need them for. The human part. It would be amazing if they could show up, talk to people, and make sales happen. Of course, there is more that they (and any professional) need to do before, during, and after the sales conversation. But your goal is to minimize all that. Every hour that your salespeople aren’t selling or doing sales-related activities, they aren’t moving revenue forward. The Ultimate Goal of Sales Ops What processes can you put in place that go 90 percent of the way, where the salesperson can do the last 10 percent? An example would be building an email campaign that runs automatically, and when the right people reply, the salesperson gets involved in getting that person from email to phone call. Another example would be your CRM serving up people for the salesperson to call – leads or anyone in the sales pipeline flow – with all the backstory, research, data, intel needed for them to review it then take action. What can you put into place that takes away as much distraction and effort from your sales team such that they can focus on the one thing you need to focus on – other humans?
By Jason Cutter February 12, 2025
The Danger of Doing Too Much as a Sales Leader Alright – so maybe they don’t need to go 90. In true servant leadership mode, you would go way more than 10% of the way to your team. But you have to be careful, as a sales leader. The inclination might be to do it all for them. To help them close their sales. To make excuses for them to your leadership as to why they aren’t closing more sales. Especially considering the very high likelihood that you are a sales manager because you were a great salesperson in the role that you are now managing. And there is a slight chance that you are a player-coach…so you are leading and selling. This can make it really tough not to want to run out on the field to win the game each time. But that doesn’t scale. That doesn’t lead to increased results. You can only sell so much as one person. Creating a Culture of Ownership So, you need to have people on your team that are coming to you. What does that look like? The pinnacle is a salesperson who doesn’t close a deal, comes to you right away and asks for feedback. They want some critiques as to where they could have done things better, different that would have led to the desired result – a closed sale. That takes a healthy level of ego by a professional who has the ultimate growth mindset. They know there are always ways to improve. They want to improve. And they are willing to risk their ego (and the internal, protective, primal part of our brain that doesn’t want to risk our place in the tribe) by asking for feedback that could be negative. Whenever you can, encourage that type of response. Ensure that the team knows that the team itself, and you as their leader, is a safe space – where the goal is to improve, grow, win and that everything done to support each other is done in that mode. They truly have to feel safe to share their mistakes and to get support in learning how to do more, better. Feedback That Drives Growth Part of this takes team and individual meetings that are actually filled with positive support. That doesn’t mean it’s always positive, motivational fluff. It’s not even about the shallow strategy of the feedback sandwich. Its about being real, honest, and empathetic – meaning “I see you are here, I know you want to be there, I will help you get there – even if its hard and it means saying hard things.” It should never feel mean or abusive or like an attack. But you can give some really direct feedback that will sting that ego I mentioned, but the person will know the intent behind it. The second part is hiring this type of person. Hiring people for the team that wants to win, grow, succeed. And they know that you don’t get better by being coddled, sheltered, or protected. You want people who don’t like the thought of perpetually living safely in their comfort zone. And they are excited about the opportunity to be a part of a team that pushes everyone, empathetically, outside of their comfort zone. Are You Leading or Just Managing? If you find yourself as a leader having to push your team, or going to them most of the time, or most of the way mentally – then they see you as a manager not a leader. They see you as someone who manages them, pushes them, and wants them to do things they don’t want to do. I have written some blogs here that go into what your role should be – as a leader, not a manager. Pulling people along with you, inspiring people, and supporting yourself with a team of people who want to win. Not just those that want to show up, do as little as they can and hopefully go unnoticed (yet – complain about not making enough money and how the comp plan isn’t fair, or the leads are bad, or their schedule means they can’t be successful.) Make sure your team knows that they need to come to you – at least 51/49. They should be asking for help, guidance, training, feedback, and support more than you are having to push it down onto them.
By Jason Cutter February 3, 2025
If you have seen the movie Hitch, then you know the scene. Will Smith’s character (Hitch) is trying to coach Kevin James’ character (Albert) on how to finish out his upcoming first date. He is giving him pointers, one being that if his date fumbles with her keys at the door, it could mean she wants a kiss. So Hitch wants to see if Albert knows what to do – for a good night kiss. Hitch gives him the advice “you go 90 percent, and then wait for her to go 10%” which Albert then asks “wait for how long?” Hitch: “as long as it takes.” Albert leads in, Hitch is holding back to see if Albert will wait, and then Albert goes all the way and gives him a kiss. Hitch gets upset, and says “You go 90, I go 10 – you don’t go the whole 100%.” The Sales Analogy Kissing our prospective customers is not acceptable (just ask HR!). But the concept is the same. You don’t want to ever make 100% of the effort for your prospective customers. You don’t want to be the one who is doing all the work. Fundamentally, it is not good practice to want the deal more than the other person. When you go your 90, you need to wait – as long as it takes – for the prospect to go to their 10. And I would say that you want to go somewhere between 10-49, in reality. How Successful Sales Professionals Balance Effort Successful sales professionals know how far they have to go to meet the prospect where they are, while also knowing how much effort the prospect needs to put in to show they are committed. Where most salespeople get in trouble is they get desperate. They want the sale (kiss) more than the other person and they go the full 100%. Of course, persistence is important. And you won’t get what you don’t ask for (although…if you have followed me for any length of time, you will know I am very against having to ask for the sale). But you also have to ensure that your prospects actually want what you are selling. And they want it for their reasons and their motivations. They are driven to pursue your production option(s). They must go 10, 40, 60% of the way to you. The Pitfall of Chasing Your Prospect Just like courtship and relationships – if you find yourself chasing and one-sided-pursing the other person then it means you want it more than they do. It also means they own you. You are essentially begging them for the relationship – convincing, manipulating, begging, bribing, persuading your way forward. Which means they consciously and/or subconsciously know that they are in control. Because if they say no, you will keep pursuing and offering solutions. In sales – that looks like a salesperson who is calling, emailing, stalking a prospect – making offers, offering discounts and trials, and trying to find any way to make deal work. They are going 90-100% of the way for the prospect, not requiring them to go anywhere towards the agreement. This will end terribly. If they do decide to buy – taking the discount, free trial, taking the sale bait – they will not be happy (since they weren’t bought in for their reasons), they will look for reasons confirming why they didn’t really want to buy anyway, and they will know that they own you. Your company will have to convince them on a regular basis to stay in the relationship. The Right Balance for Customer Ownership You fundamentally need that prospective customer to come to you. Not 100% where you are just an Order Taker. But potentially 51% of the way – so they want it more than you. The more you can get them across that 50/50 threshold, the more they will be a satisfied customer. But remember – at 51/49 – they still need persuading, they still need to understand the value of your product for where they ultimately want to be in their life/business, and they still need your support. They lean in the right amount, you lean in the right amount = sales magic!
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