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E234: Sell With A Story, with Paul Smith (Part 3)

January 16, 2024



Are you telling stories in the wrong way?


Are you telling stories in the wrong way?


Yes – there is a correct way to tell a story.


I wrap up the conversation I had with Paul Smith in this episode. Make sure to check out the first two segments, and use the links below to connect with Paul.


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  • Show Transcript

    Jason: Welcome back to another fantastic episode of the sales experience podcast. So excited that you're here. This is the final part of the three part segment of the conversation I had with the amazing storytelling, Paul Smith. If you didn't make sure to listen to parts one and two, the past two days, subscribe and if possible rate and review this podcast so other people can find it and share it because the biggest thing that I'm focused on right now is helping change the way that sales is viewed and how people operate in their sales role and things like this episodes like this and conversations with people like the amazing Paul Smith should be helping people get better at sales and creating a better sales experience and thus getting better results for themselves.


    So here is this episode. And at the end, Paul shares his links, but you can also go to cutter consulting group. com and find the transcript, his links as well, and lots of other resources for you, your sales career, and your business.


    Paul: It's the minority of the time that you spend talking will be storytelling, but those would be the most impactful, memorable things that you say.


    Jason: I love it. And I have definitely seen the other end that you mentioned, which is more stories, a lot of stories with salespeople that either are unconscious of it. And I don't want to say inconsiderate, but more self centered on their story sides like that sometimes I see where that happens and they just all they care about is telling their story or the stories and they just want to talk about themselves or the other end of that spectrum where they're using lots of stories is maybe insecure and worried that the person isn't going to like them or buy from them.


    So they go really heavy on the stories to just convince somebody like, Hey, you can trust me. You can buy from me. You should really like me. And I have tons of stories of just in general, from cooking to successful customers and they spend too much time. And it's I appreciate the fact that you have that kind of down to a number where.


    Here's a good, successful amount of some stories, then also work.


    Paul: And again, I think the stories are part of the work. But yeah, if it gets to be 50, 60, 70 percent of what you're doing is storytelling. I'm sure somebody can pull that off. I don't know that I could. But zero is also a problem, right? If you're not telling any stories, you're probably missing out on a big opportunity.


    Jason: And that's where I coach people relative to using the strategy in different ways, especially about being excited, which triggers it. Where you want to act like this, but what you're saying is don't do no stories because nobody enjoys something like the DMV where they're getting that kind of experience.


    You don't want to be like that, right? Where it's okay, that was terrible and painful. You want some kind of relatability. Yeah. Yeah. I agree. So what are other ways in all of your research that you've seen where salespeople have either failed to use stories or failed with stories, or do you have stories about failures with stories?


    I'm just thinking about what other cautionary tales can we give to salespeople where they can look out for and get some change from it?


    Paul: Yeah. So a couple of things come to mind. One is never announce that you're going to tell a story, right? So saying. Jason, that's an interesting question. Let me tell you a story.


    No, don't do that. I thought that's what you do.


    Jason: I just think of grandpa on the porch. Let me tell you a story.


    Paul: Yeah and there are some people that works with, but in doing my research and asking the question of those buyers, what makes the hairs on the back of your neck stand up? Many people, in fact, I think it's most people, have a negative visceral reaction to hearing the words, let me tell you a story.


    And I have a number of hypotheses for why that is. When you say that, what people expect is a long, boring, 15 minute story about the barbecue you had this weekend, which is completely irrelevant to the conversation we're having. So basically saying, let me tell you a story, and if it's grandpa and you're out on the porch on a Saturday night, that might be great.


    But if it's a salesperson in your office at 9 o'clock on a Monday morning, what you hear is, let me waste your time for a few minutes. Yeah. So don't announce that you're going to tell a story, just start telling the story. They'll figure out that you're, they're listening to a story, but when you announce it, and some people, by the way, where I grew up, the word story is a synonym for the word lying.


    Paul Smith, if you don't quit telling stories, I'm going to switch your behind. That's what my mom used to tell me. So a number of people just the word story sets up some barriers that are not going to help you. So you should tell stories, but you shouldn't tell people you're going to tell them a story, right?


    Unless they're five year olds and it's, all right, boys and girls gather around, it's story time, works great for the kindergarten teacher, but you're a grown up and you work with grown ups. So don't tell them you're going to tell them a story. Okay. The other thing is don't apologize or ask permission.


    And you hear that all the time, right? Somebody will say, you'll be in the middle of a meeting and they'll say, Oh can I just tell a quick story? I promise it'll just take a minute, right? What does that communicate to you about how important they think the story is?


    Jason: They think it's important, but maybe not relevant and they're unsure and it doesn't sound very confident instead of just coming out with it.


    Paul: If they really thought it was important, they wouldn't be apologizing for it and asking permission to tell it. Leaders don't ask permission to lead. Do they? No, they just lead. Salespeople don't ask permission. Deliver a sales pitch. As long as you've already gotten permission to be in the room and give your sales pitch, don't ask permission again.


    That's what you're there for. Apologizing and asking for permission. What that communicates is I don't think this is as important as what was going to be said anyway. But I want you to let me tell it anyway. If you don't believe it's as important as what was gonna be said, then don't tell it.


    Get back to the bullet points on slide number 72. But if you do think it's important, just tell it. Just start telling the story at the point in the conversation where the story goes and it'll be fine. So those are some don'ts. Don't do those two things. I guess one more don't, would be don't give away the ending of the story.


    Storytelling is not like that corporate memo writing that we were talking about. In a corporate memo, you give away the ending right up front. I recommend that we do the following things. And here is the list of reasons why I think we should do it. That's what the rest of the memo is. It's my list of reasons why you should do what I said up front, right?


    When you go into a sales pitch, you've got a recommendation up front. I think you should buy our product ABC, right? The sales pitch is going to be the list of reasons why to buy it, and that's fine. But when you get to the point in the sales pitch that you're going to tell a story about one of your other customers who used it and loves it, don't say at the beginning of the story, now this customer line loves it and they love it after this happened and, okay, so now, so let me tell you the story about that.


    You just told me the story. You told me the story in two sentences and now you're going to tell me the story again in 15 sentences? Don't give away the end of the story. That's not how storytelling works. You'd hate to see a movie where you knew the ending and then had to watch the whole movie.


    Tell the story in the proper order. But we do that a lot because we're taught to write memos, so we tell the ending up front. Don't give away the ending up front. Don't give away the lesson of the story. Don't give away the recommended action in the story. Don't give away how everything turned out for the characters at the beginning of the story.


    Let them find out in the natural order of things when they happen in the story.


    Jason: And I think one of the reasons, too, that last example happens where people lead with kind of the punchline and then try to tell the story anyway and fill in the gaps is that it might be from a place of seeing that the point of the story is the punchline, not the journey.


    The point of the movie. Is the big reveal at the end or the big twist because so and so did this or something happened. And so they're not tying the emotional journey and the adventure and the path. They're seeing, okay, the goal is just to get to New York. Who cares what happens on the way? We got to New York.


    Oh, now let me tell you what happened. No, like the journey is the point of it all. And they're missing that.


    Paul: Yeah. Yes. And so what you can do up front, you can give them an idea of where you're going with the story, but just don't give them that the end destination. If somebody asks you a question, you can answer it by saying something like, wow, that's a tough problem.


    Let me tell you what I did five years ago when I had your job and I ran into that problem and then tell the story, right? So I've given them enough information to know that if you listen to me for the next two minutes. I'm going to tell you what I did when I ran into your problem. Now, I'm not going to tell you upfront what I did and how it turned out.


    That's what the story is. That's the story. The story is what I did and how it turned out. But if I tell you what I did and how it turned out in the first two sentences. I don't need to hear your story now because you've already answered it without telling me a story and that's fine to do that occasionally But then don't bore them with the story afterwards.


    You've just decided to not use storytelling You've decided that this is gonna be my 85 to 90 percent of the time Where I'm not telling stories, fine, do that, but then don't bore them with a story after that.


    Jason: Hey, it's Jason here. We'll be right back to the podcast, but first, are you ready to change the way you view your selling role and become a sales professional?


    Do you have a team that is hungry for new ways to improve and grow? If so, I have various coaching and consulting programs available that might be great tools to help you achieve your goals. To learn more about the ways we can work together and to book your free sales power call, go to jasoncutter. com.


    Now let's get back to the episode. So let me ask you this before we wrap up. Do you still enjoy telling stories? Do you find yourself telling lots of stories as you've gone through this path?


    Paul: I do. In fact, I'm feeling uncomfortable right now because we've done a whole podcast on storytelling and you haven't asked me to tell a story yet.


    Jason: So what I was going to say, I just wanted to see if you just go the whole, I thought you'd throw in some stories about the time when you did a podcast where you were a guest and such happened. So what's a story that you really like to tell or you think would help. And time like this.


    Paul: Yeah. So I will share one, but I'll directly answer your question.


    No, I have not gotten tired of telling stories. Love it. And some of it's because I keep getting new ones, but even the stories that I love to tell, I still love to tell them. And here's one of them. Okay. So number 11 on that list of 25 stories that people need, okay. It's called how we're different from our competitors.


    So it's a story to illustrate how you're different from your competitors, obviously. And you'd tell that. At some point, probably in the middle of your sales process. So my favorite example here comes from a guy named Sherrad Madison. So he's the CEO of United Building Maintenance. So it's a commercial cleaning company, right?


    So they're the folks who come in and clean your offices at night. And when he's got a call, a sales call on a new prospect, he's got his sales VP with him and they've got a whole sales pitch that they go through. But at some point during the call, he tells a story about what he typically does when he gets a new client.


    He says, There's usually a 30 day transition period from when I signed the contract to when I actually take over. And during that 30 days, I always do the same thing. I go sneak into the building in the middle of the night because I want to see how they're cleaning it now, right? Now it's probably not as nefarious as I just made it sound because he gets permission to go do this from the client, but all the people cleaning the building, they're typically contract employees.


    And so I'm going to inherit them. They're going to become my employees at the end of the month. And I want to know if they're properly trained and have the right equipment. So I go sneaking in at two o'clock in the morning, and he said, so like last month I took over the Verizon building in New Jersey.


    So Two o'clock in the morning. I'm sneaking in and I find this guy vacuuming the carpets and he said he's using the same kind of residential quality vacuum cleaner that I use at home. Now, what you got to understand is that those corridors are 12 feet wide and a half a mile around in that building.


    It's going to take that guy a month just to vacuum the carpets once, right? Plus that machine's not going to do a good job and it's going to break down every couple of weeks because it's just not made for that kind of volume of use, right? So when we took over, we put them into a triple wide industrial strength vacuuming machine that'll do a much better job in a fraction of the time.


    Plus, that thing will last forever. So well, then I went to another floor. And I saw this guy

    shampooing the carpets and it's the same story, he's using the same kind of residential quality squeeze bottle walk behind shampoo or that I use at home and it's the same problem. It won't last very long.


    It doesn't do a good job. So when we took over, we put him into one of those commercial grade riding shampoos, where the guy rides around on it does a much better job in a fraction of the time. And again, that machine is going to last forever. But also notice that gets the guy off his feet right now, he's riding on a machine sitting down, which means I have fewer workman's compensation issues, which means my client has fewer workman's comp issues.


    And the last thing he says, but the last thing I wanted to check was how they're dusting the offices. So I go find the offices and I look on top of all the file cabinets and I see the same thing on top of every one of them. It's like a half a moon swiped out on top. And he says, I don't know exactly what that means.


    And you probably do too, right? He said, those cabinets are five and a half feet tall. And they're three feet deep, right? I went and found the people doing the dusting to confirm my suspicion. Most of them were not tall enough to reach all the way to the back of those really tall cabinets, right?


    So that's what leaves that half moon swiped out on top. He said, so the truth is they'd be better off not cleaning it at all because it's the contrast between the dusty part and the clean part that makes it obvious that it's dirty, right? So when we took over, we just gave them all these little 18 inch long plastic extension wands to reach all the way to the back with their dust cloths.


    Problem solved. He'll tell that little story and instead of saying something like this, Jason, instead of saying the three reasons why I'm better than my competitors are because I use triple wide industrial grade vacuuming machines, commercial grade riding shampoos, and I give all my dusters 18 inch extension ones, and that's why we're different.


    Are those his three key differentiating characteristics as a supplier? Yes. Would those fit nicely on a brochure? Yes. Hopefully you can see that sharing the story is more compelling and memorable than the list of three reasons. Because now that you've heard the story, like you can see in your mind's eye.


    That guy riding around on that shampooer like the Zamboni driver at the ice skating rink, right? You can see somebody easily reaching the back of the cabinets with their dust wand, right? You can see that. You can feel it. You'll remember it better. So that's a how we're different from our competitor's story as opposed to a how we're different than our competitor's list.


    So that would be one of the 25 types of stories that you would want to tell a story like that about your company and how your company is different from your competitors.


    Jason: Makes sense. I love it. Yep. And I totally agree. When you're telling that story, I can visualize all of it. I can see the challenges, the features and the benefits come out of all of that.


    without pointing out the features and the benefits being obvious running through the bullet points and doing the classic. Here's why we're better than so and it's, just let me tell you a story and then you make your own conclusion. I don't have to shove it down your throat.


    Paul: Yeah, exactly. Now, and you'll have those three bullet points somewhere in your pitch anyway, but the story brings it to life in a way that your bullet points won't.


    Jason: And finishing on that note, we're a tribal. Species, right? A society that loves to be in tribes and relationships and storytelling and being a part of something and visualizing it. And that's a huge difference. So I think that was a great story. I love that example for salespeople out there to use.


    Paul: Cool. Thank you for giving me an opportunity to tell it. So I didn't get too twitchy over here.


    Jason: Perfect. Paul, where can people find you, your work? Where's the best place to find the things that you're working on?


    Paul: Yeah, thanks. My website's probably the easiest place to get all that stuff, which is leadwithastory. Com. So all the books are there and the training classes I do and all that info and my contact information is there too.


    Jason: Perfect. Paul, thanks for being on the show and being a storyteller and helping people. improve that part of their communication for that effectiveness. So thank you. You bet.


    Paul: Thanks for having me on.


    Jason: Yeah. And for everyone listening, I'm going to put all of Paul's information, his show notes, the stuff that he mentioned in there, those lists, I'm going to put those on the website, cutterconsultinggroup. com slash podcast. You can find it there. And as always keep in mind that everything in life is sales and people remember the experience you gave them.



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The Balance of Effort in Sales The blogs this week have been about the other person going most of the way. Whether it’s a prospective customer and your salesperson, where the salesperson truly can’t want the deal or make most of it happen for that customer to truly be successful. On the path for that prospect to becoming a customer, they should go at least 51/49. Whether it’s your team and their manager, the manager can’t want the team to succeed more than the team actually wants it for themselves. It’s not scalable for the coach (manager) to run on the field every play to win the game for the salespeople. What about sales ops processes and systems? What about the tools available to the sales team and the ones that are classified as sales enablement? In a reversal of philosophy, I believe the sales ops processes should go 90, the team should only have to go 10. Why Do We Need Salespeople? Let’s start where it matters – what is the point of having salespeople? I know many owners question the need and desire to have salespeople. They are hard to manage, tough to deal with, always want more money (potentially for doing less work and closing less deals), and are very resistant to change. Of course, that is a generalization. Of course, there are salespeople who don’t check those boxes. However, having worked with a lot of teams in a lot of industries, that generalization isn’t completely wrong or unfair. So if there is even a small part of that which is accurate, why would we even mess with the messiness of having salespeople? Of needing to employ and manage humans? The Human Element in Sales We need them. That’s why. Even in 2025, AI and technology has not successfully replicated the requirements of sales – which is about helping a human (prospect/customer) make the right decision and move outside of their comfort zone to buy something new. It still takes your human (salesperson) to persuade that other human. It’s why I say all the time that its not B2B, B2C, Retail, SaaS, etc. – it’s H2H. Sure, people can buy something online or even in a store without speaking to someone. But if it’s a considered purchase where there are options and decisions to be considered – it still takes a human being involved. That means ultimately your human (salesperson) has one job, and one job only – persuade the right prospective humans to buy. Minimizing Distractions for Salespeople Everything outside of that mission, task, focus is a distraction that takes away from their highest and best use. Imagine if we had a surgeon who had to prep the room, prep the patient, schedule the surgery and meetings, and do all the parts of the surgery themselves. Nope – they show up for the surgery and do what they do best. Then they take off their gown, gloves, and walk away to get cleaned up and move on to the next thing. Your goal as a sales ops leader is to support the team with systems and processes that allow them to focus on the one thing you need them for. The human part. It would be amazing if they could show up, talk to people, and make sales happen. Of course, there is more that they (and any professional) need to do before, during, and after the sales conversation. But your goal is to minimize all that. Every hour that your salespeople aren’t selling or doing sales-related activities, they aren’t moving revenue forward. The Ultimate Goal of Sales Ops What processes can you put in place that go 90 percent of the way, where the salesperson can do the last 10 percent? An example would be building an email campaign that runs automatically, and when the right people reply, the salesperson gets involved in getting that person from email to phone call. Another example would be your CRM serving up people for the salesperson to call – leads or anyone in the sales pipeline flow – with all the backstory, research, data, intel needed for them to review it then take action. What can you put into place that takes away as much distraction and effort from your sales team such that they can focus on the one thing you need to focus on – other humans?
By Jason Cutter February 12, 2025
The Danger of Doing Too Much as a Sales Leader Alright – so maybe they don’t need to go 90. In true servant leadership mode, you would go way more than 10% of the way to your team. But you have to be careful, as a sales leader. The inclination might be to do it all for them. To help them close their sales. To make excuses for them to your leadership as to why they aren’t closing more sales. Especially considering the very high likelihood that you are a sales manager because you were a great salesperson in the role that you are now managing. And there is a slight chance that you are a player-coach…so you are leading and selling. This can make it really tough not to want to run out on the field to win the game each time. But that doesn’t scale. That doesn’t lead to increased results. You can only sell so much as one person. Creating a Culture of Ownership So, you need to have people on your team that are coming to you. What does that look like? The pinnacle is a salesperson who doesn’t close a deal, comes to you right away and asks for feedback. They want some critiques as to where they could have done things better, different that would have led to the desired result – a closed sale. That takes a healthy level of ego by a professional who has the ultimate growth mindset. They know there are always ways to improve. They want to improve. And they are willing to risk their ego (and the internal, protective, primal part of our brain that doesn’t want to risk our place in the tribe) by asking for feedback that could be negative. Whenever you can, encourage that type of response. Ensure that the team knows that the team itself, and you as their leader, is a safe space – where the goal is to improve, grow, win and that everything done to support each other is done in that mode. They truly have to feel safe to share their mistakes and to get support in learning how to do more, better. Feedback That Drives Growth Part of this takes team and individual meetings that are actually filled with positive support. That doesn’t mean it’s always positive, motivational fluff. It’s not even about the shallow strategy of the feedback sandwich. Its about being real, honest, and empathetic – meaning “I see you are here, I know you want to be there, I will help you get there – even if its hard and it means saying hard things.” It should never feel mean or abusive or like an attack. But you can give some really direct feedback that will sting that ego I mentioned, but the person will know the intent behind it. The second part is hiring this type of person. Hiring people for the team that wants to win, grow, succeed. And they know that you don’t get better by being coddled, sheltered, or protected. You want people who don’t like the thought of perpetually living safely in their comfort zone. And they are excited about the opportunity to be a part of a team that pushes everyone, empathetically, outside of their comfort zone. Are You Leading or Just Managing? If you find yourself as a leader having to push your team, or going to them most of the time, or most of the way mentally – then they see you as a manager not a leader. They see you as someone who manages them, pushes them, and wants them to do things they don’t want to do. I have written some blogs here that go into what your role should be – as a leader, not a manager. Pulling people along with you, inspiring people, and supporting yourself with a team of people who want to win. Not just those that want to show up, do as little as they can and hopefully go unnoticed (yet – complain about not making enough money and how the comp plan isn’t fair, or the leads are bad, or their schedule means they can’t be successful.) Make sure your team knows that they need to come to you – at least 51/49. They should be asking for help, guidance, training, feedback, and support more than you are having to push it down onto them.
By Jason Cutter February 3, 2025
If you have seen the movie Hitch, then you know the scene. Will Smith’s character (Hitch) is trying to coach Kevin James’ character (Albert) on how to finish out his upcoming first date. He is giving him pointers, one being that if his date fumbles with her keys at the door, it could mean she wants a kiss. So Hitch wants to see if Albert knows what to do – for a good night kiss. Hitch gives him the advice “you go 90 percent, and then wait for her to go 10%” which Albert then asks “wait for how long?” Hitch: “as long as it takes.” Albert leads in, Hitch is holding back to see if Albert will wait, and then Albert goes all the way and gives him a kiss. Hitch gets upset, and says “You go 90, I go 10 – you don’t go the whole 100%.” The Sales Analogy Kissing our prospective customers is not acceptable (just ask HR!). But the concept is the same. You don’t want to ever make 100% of the effort for your prospective customers. You don’t want to be the one who is doing all the work. Fundamentally, it is not good practice to want the deal more than the other person. When you go your 90, you need to wait – as long as it takes – for the prospect to go to their 10. And I would say that you want to go somewhere between 10-49, in reality. How Successful Sales Professionals Balance Effort Successful sales professionals know how far they have to go to meet the prospect where they are, while also knowing how much effort the prospect needs to put in to show they are committed. Where most salespeople get in trouble is they get desperate. They want the sale (kiss) more than the other person and they go the full 100%. Of course, persistence is important. And you won’t get what you don’t ask for (although…if you have followed me for any length of time, you will know I am very against having to ask for the sale). But you also have to ensure that your prospects actually want what you are selling. And they want it for their reasons and their motivations. They are driven to pursue your production option(s). They must go 10, 40, 60% of the way to you. The Pitfall of Chasing Your Prospect Just like courtship and relationships – if you find yourself chasing and one-sided-pursing the other person then it means you want it more than they do. It also means they own you. You are essentially begging them for the relationship – convincing, manipulating, begging, bribing, persuading your way forward. Which means they consciously and/or subconsciously know that they are in control. Because if they say no, you will keep pursuing and offering solutions. In sales – that looks like a salesperson who is calling, emailing, stalking a prospect – making offers, offering discounts and trials, and trying to find any way to make deal work. They are going 90-100% of the way for the prospect, not requiring them to go anywhere towards the agreement. This will end terribly. If they do decide to buy – taking the discount, free trial, taking the sale bait – they will not be happy (since they weren’t bought in for their reasons), they will look for reasons confirming why they didn’t really want to buy anyway, and they will know that they own you. Your company will have to convince them on a regular basis to stay in the relationship. The Right Balance for Customer Ownership You fundamentally need that prospective customer to come to you. Not 100% where you are just an Order Taker. But potentially 51% of the way – so they want it more than you. The more you can get them across that 50/50 threshold, the more they will be a satisfied customer. But remember – at 51/49 – they still need persuading, they still need to understand the value of your product for where they ultimately want to be in their life/business, and they still need your support. They lean in the right amount, you lean in the right amount = sales magic!
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