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E191: From Paramedic to Sales Leader with Chris Cebollero – Part 4 of 4

January 8, 2024


How do you adapt your sales techniques to different customer personalities to create a more personalized experience?


This is the last segment of the conversation I had with Chris. 


In Part 4, Chris and I talk about:

  • Are you developing your skills for long term success?
  • Patience – key for winning at life
  • Being a relational salesperson and building trust
  • Getting your prospects to come to you


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Chris’s Bio:

Chris Cebollero is an EMS Leader and Internationally Recognized Leadership Specialist, Best Selling Author, Coach and Motivational Lecturer. His dynamic and energetic speaking style has entertained, motivated and educated individuals, groups and teams for over 25 years. Chris is currently the Senior Partner of his own consulting firm specializing in Leadership Development, Individual and Executive Coaching, and Organizational Process Improvement. Chris has been seen on ABC, NBC, CBS, and FOX. He is a Certified Member of the John Maxwell Team, and is an Official Member of the Forbes Coaches Council. Chris has spent 30 years in the Emergency Medical Services career field and continues to be an advocate for delivering the best care possible.

Chris’s Links:

Website:www.chriscebollero.com 

His Book: https://www.amazon.com/Business-Leader-Success-II-Introduction-ebook/dp/B010OLTPS2

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chriscebollero/
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  • Show Transcript

    Jason: Welcome to the sales experience podcast. Welcome back. This is part four so glad that you’re here. My name again is Jason Cutter and on this last segment of the conversation with Chris Cebollero we’re just wrapping it up, talking about sales experience, talking about more about emotional intelligence and how all of that plays in. It was a great conversation. Make sure at the end of this episode Chris mentions his links. You can also find them on the website where I’ve got the transcripts. Also make sure to follow Chris, check out his content. If you’re in sales leadership, he is a great resource as well. And if you’re in the medical field, emergency medical field, then you probably already know his name and all of the great work that he does and has done. But at the end he talks about the books that he’s written and where you can find him.


    Jason: So here it is. The final part. Enjoy. 


    Chris: Well 2019 went and 365 days, 12 months, 52 weeks. But what happened was, is you didn’t have an intentional process to develop yourself or to have goals in 2019 and you let 2019 live you and you didn’t live 2019 so now that we get into 2020 and now we’re talking about the first couple months here, what plans do you have for yourself? What goals do you have for yourself that 2020 doesn’t live you, but that’s being intentional into being the very best that you can be. Jason, I don’t think we do that enough. 


    Jason: No, and I think the component that’s missing for a lot of people, and I’ll speak for myself because I used to be this way and I’ve worked to shift it, is that the most people are also missing the patience side, right?


    Jason: So if we’re talking about any kind of transformation, being intentional, like your cousin’s weight loss story, it’s also about being patient. It’s not about losing, how do I lose 500 pounds by next Thursday? It’s, how do I lose, you know, and I tell people, if you lost a pound a week, 


    Chris: So I got the pound a week club. 


    Jason: Right? A pound a week, that’s 52 pounds a year. If you did that for two years, that’s a hundred pounds healthy, sustainable, consistent, just lose a pound a week, right? No fad diet where you’re losing 20 pounds. So you can look good in a bathing suit. 


    Chris: It’s about a lifestyle change and how we’re doing it live in our life 


    Jason: And for salespeople, and we’re talking about the emotional intelligence and the curiosity and the being intentional with all that. It’s also allowing the framework for the patience of, okay, well I want to be here as a sales person or I want to achieve these goals.


    Jason: It’s like, but you’ve gotta be patient, right? You got to read and learn and you’re not going to be amazing tomorrow if you’re deficient in something. Just play the long game. I say this to people. Life is both very short and very long. Life is very short, where you need to live in the moment. Live in today. Appreciate today cause you never know and then life is also very, very long or you have the time to get things done or if you’re miserable it’s going to feel very long and life is going to be very un-fun for a very long time. 


    Chris: Yeah, I’m with you 100% I think you’re absolutely right. 


    Jason: So let me ask you, I have a bunch of questions I try to ask. I’m not usually too good at it because we have a fun conversation we covered anyway. But the one question I want to ask for you is what do you think makes for a great sales experience? 


    Chris: Well I gotta tell you I am one of the worst customers I think. I don’t, I don’t want people coming to my office and to sell me.


    Chris: I want to, I want to call when I need you. I don’t like the pop in, I don’t want the sales pitch. I know what I want cause I do my research on it. And I think what makes a great sales experience for me is the professionals that know that, that understand who I am as a customer. That understand that I’m going to give you a hard time. You got to win your way into my heart for me to be a good client or customer for you. And uh, particularly I put them through the paces just to see their tenacity, just to see their persistence. But I want it on my terms. And I think that that goes back to the processes of you need to learn who I am. You need to learn what’s important to me. And if you don’t, that’s a quick way to make sure that, you don’t come back into my office.


    Chris: As a matter of fact, I had salespeople kicked out of the hospital system that I worked in because of them trying to circumvent me. So because I wasn’t moving quick enough for their decision, again, we talk about an 18 month sales process. They decided to go to my medical director or they decided to go to my vice president and try to move the process along. Well, I had them banned from the hospital so they couldn’t come in at all and sell to anybody. So you need to know your clients and customers and you need to make sure that you meet their expectations. And, uh, I think that’s what’s important for the sales experience.


    Jason: And a couple of things. The first part is, it’s interesting because I’m the same way as far as I don’t want people to come in to sell me. If I want something, I’ll go to them. But it’s interesting because when I listened to you speak, and we’re recording this on video as well, so I’m watching you explain this, I truly understand and can totally see you being that hard guy that’s going to put them through the paces. And then I also get this very strong feeling that as soon as you do let somebody in and you do trust them and you do want to work with them, like you’re a relational guy. And then unless they screw something up terribly, like you’re good for life with them. Like once they’re in with you, they’re probably in and, and things are great.


    Chris: Yeah, I agree. And I think we have to get to that process. And uh, but you know, I think that you’re absolutely right. I think that it is about relationships and you know, Paul Martinelio will tell us that to be a great salesperson, you’ve gotta be able, people gotta be able to know, like, and trust you. And a trust is a big word and big word in a process of, you know, trying to sell somebody something and I can’t count the number of times I’ve gone into a store and there’s been poor customer service and I’ve walked out of the store where I was going to, I had a, a pocket full of cash and my ready to buy some stuff and I just went to the next store because I can pick and choose where I spend my money. I can pick who I’m going to engage with.


    Chris: I can pick and choose. Now is my money that walks out the door gonna close that business. I don’t care if it does or not, but I’m not going back. You know, if they have other people that appreciate that level of service, that’s fine. And I don’t think we use that enough. Right? I don’t think we use the fact that I don’t need you. I don’t need to eat here. I don’t need to go to this store. I can find other stores that sell these brand of jeans and um, I think that that’s what makes, should make us happy.


    Jason: And the right, the right companies, the right businesses that get that and provide that service no matter what. No prejudging, no treating different people differently based on how they look or act or what kind of customer they’re going to be. Those are the ones that win longterm. I mean, I used to do that just for fun when I was back in college and I would go to like jewelry stores and I would dress like a college student. I have like, you know, flip flops on pocketful of money ready to buy. And I’d literally go into stores and have people like not even acknowledge my presence and then I would wait for a few minutes and walk out and just keep going until I found one where people just engaged with me and talk to me. And then they had access to it from there. So the other part that’s interesting in what you’re talking about, and maybe you can give some tips because I think this would be valuable from your side to help sales people and managers is I work with a lot of business to business companies.


    Jason: So they face challenges like the sales people who are trying to get to you and get you to make a decision. So they’re trying to sell to you. They present to you, you have your own reasons why you’re delayed on the process for taking your time. Maybe it’s not urgent, maybe you have a lot of hoops that you have to go through as an owner or a manager or whatever. And so the salesperson then goes to other people in the org chart to try to get the decision made, right? Because the sales person has their goals and their timelines. Is there an effective way they could do that where it doesn’t get them banned from the hospital, you know, quote-unquote where you know, talking to other people in the org chart would be valuable and would help you with your decision or is that just a no go for you?


    Chris: I think that that has to be something that’s a common grant. Was there someone else I can talk to? Is there someone else I can present to? Does it help your case if, and you know, in my case as the chief of EMS and when you start to think about fire chiefs and EMS chiefs and police chiefs, I’m going to say we got a little bit of an ego going, but I think that the common ground there is let’s discuss it together. Is there someone that I need to help? What can I do? But when I’m saying this is going to be a process, you know, I’m not going to be able to get this money this year. You know, going to my boss and saying, you know, we need to spend, you know, one point $5 million in monitors and where are you going to find the money? I know what the budget looks like. You know, I know what that process looks like. You know, when it comes to the final pitch to say, I’m going to go with these monitors. Maybe it’s time for you to do that. But if we’re going to develop a trusting relationship, we’ve gotta be in it together. And that together is, okay, I think I need to get you in front of my boss. I think I need to get you in front of my medical director. And it’s that agreement that I think needs to happen.


    Jason: And that’s a great lesson because it’s really about coming to you. Like you said, if I, if I heard you right, it’s coming to you and you’re still in the decision process is trying to work together and partner together. Is there somebody else they need to talk to? Is there something else that can be done? And then at some point it’s just letting you make your decision, right? I mean, there’s a balance of persistence and checking in that then becomes nagging and pushy salesperson, desperate for their end of month, end of quarter, whatever that might be versus, you know, just working with you and looking at it longterm and relationship, which is what we started the whole conversation with.


    Chris: You know? And I think that one of the things that’s important as well in this from a customer standpoint is not the mislead the salesperson either. So a lot of times we’ll say things just either get him off the phone or to get him off our back or to, we have to be as transparent as we can be as well. Let’s say, you know, the process is going to take some time and not getting misleading information. Because if I’m saying, you know, I just can’t get my boss to agree, they’re going to say, well, I bet you if I get in front of him, I can get them to a great, you know, so if I’m not giving them the truth, I think that that sends the wrong message as well because they’ve got to know, like, and trust me as well. Sure, they want to make the sale, but they want to make the sale if someone that they’re going to respect as well, because regardless if they’re going to make a commission on this or not, they’ve got to feel comfortable and have good, uh, unethical relationship that, you know what, maybe that’s not the best organization that I want to be selling to it.


    Chris: People know that they’re in their territory and they’ve got no choice. Sometimes they’re the only ones that are selling that piece of equipment in that area, but you’ve got to be fair to them as well.


    Jason: Yeah, and I, and I think that’s important for salespeople to just always ask questions, always dig as deep as possible. If you’re getting the kind of end of phone call, send me information, we need to think about it or I need to meet, you know, ask questions to go deeper and deeper. And then you know, really, you know, because prospects, customers aren’t going to think like you are where they need to be honest and I need to share exactly what’s going on because that’s not how they view it yet. Maybe it’s too early in the relationship with a salesperson. So a salesperson just needs to ask and make sure they understand. I mean one of the things is, you know, I see a lot of people get the, well just send me an email with some information. I’ll look at it and then I’ll get back to you. And then what I found after years of doing is I would ask people, I said, Hey, I can happily send you information, but is it information and research that you want to do? And then we can talk. Or is this just your nice way of getting rid of me because you don’t want to tell me, no one hurt my feelings, but you’re really not interested.


    Chris: Remember I don’t hurt your feelings. You allow your feelings to be hurt.


    Jason: Right. I couldn’t hurt the prospect’s feelings, but you know, they’re probably not as, uh, as self-aware as you and I, uh, Chris, thank you for being on the show. Where’s the best place for people to find you? Find the information you have out there. I also know that you’ve done a lot of video or a TV appearance is the last stuff like that. So where’s the best place for people to find you?


    Chris: Yeah, you go to my website, www.chriscebollero.com check out my books on Amazon. I’ve got three great books that just came out. One or not came out. They’d been out. One is ultimate leadership. 10 rules for success. The rules I had to develop to be a good leader, ultimate success, which is the skills you need to have to be a great leader. And last October, Jason, I put out a great book, advice to my younger self and if we can go back in a time machine to our 25-year-old self, what’s the one piece of advice that we would give ourselves to help our journey to be a lot easier? What’s really great about this book is that I had a lot of my peers in the United States write the chapters, so I just wrote one and then I have 11 great authors that put their expertise Danny Creed who’s been on your show actually wrote one of the chapters, you know? So it really is advice from a lot of great people and whether you’re 25 years old and looking to start your career or you’re 45 years old and you want to change it, get some great advice. But uh, that’s how you can find me best.


    Jason: On that note, I wanted to give you the last word. What’s one message you want to put out there? One piece of advice or maybe it’s something that you discovered when you were going through that process of what you would tell your younger self. What do you want to leave the audience with?


    Chris: You’re not as important as you think you are. So you’ve gotta be able to earn your leadership every day. If you think that you’re good, then you’re going to let somebody down. You know, you’ve gotta be able to understand that you’re going to make mistakes and then you reflect on those mistakes and that’s where you gain your wisdom.


    Jason: Perfect. Thanks, Chris for being here.


    Chris: Alrighty. Thanks. Let me come back again and we’ll have another great talk.


    Jason: Yeah, we’ll do a recap. Maybe you and Danny, all of us, one big group conversation could do that. And for everyone out there, if you want to get the transcript for this, plus Chris’s links, go to cutterconsultinggroup.com you can find everything there under the podcast page. And as always, keep in mind that everything in life is sales and people remember the experience you gave them.




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The Balance of Effort in Sales The blogs this week have been about the other person going most of the way. Whether it’s a prospective customer and your salesperson, where the salesperson truly can’t want the deal or make most of it happen for that customer to truly be successful. On the path for that prospect to becoming a customer, they should go at least 51/49. Whether it’s your team and their manager, the manager can’t want the team to succeed more than the team actually wants it for themselves. It’s not scalable for the coach (manager) to run on the field every play to win the game for the salespeople. What about sales ops processes and systems? What about the tools available to the sales team and the ones that are classified as sales enablement? In a reversal of philosophy, I believe the sales ops processes should go 90, the team should only have to go 10. Why Do We Need Salespeople? Let’s start where it matters – what is the point of having salespeople? I know many owners question the need and desire to have salespeople. They are hard to manage, tough to deal with, always want more money (potentially for doing less work and closing less deals), and are very resistant to change. Of course, that is a generalization. Of course, there are salespeople who don’t check those boxes. However, having worked with a lot of teams in a lot of industries, that generalization isn’t completely wrong or unfair. So if there is even a small part of that which is accurate, why would we even mess with the messiness of having salespeople? Of needing to employ and manage humans? The Human Element in Sales We need them. That’s why. Even in 2025, AI and technology has not successfully replicated the requirements of sales – which is about helping a human (prospect/customer) make the right decision and move outside of their comfort zone to buy something new. It still takes your human (salesperson) to persuade that other human. It’s why I say all the time that its not B2B, B2C, Retail, SaaS, etc. – it’s H2H. Sure, people can buy something online or even in a store without speaking to someone. But if it’s a considered purchase where there are options and decisions to be considered – it still takes a human being involved. That means ultimately your human (salesperson) has one job, and one job only – persuade the right prospective humans to buy. Minimizing Distractions for Salespeople Everything outside of that mission, task, focus is a distraction that takes away from their highest and best use. Imagine if we had a surgeon who had to prep the room, prep the patient, schedule the surgery and meetings, and do all the parts of the surgery themselves. Nope – they show up for the surgery and do what they do best. Then they take off their gown, gloves, and walk away to get cleaned up and move on to the next thing. Your goal as a sales ops leader is to support the team with systems and processes that allow them to focus on the one thing you need them for. The human part. It would be amazing if they could show up, talk to people, and make sales happen. Of course, there is more that they (and any professional) need to do before, during, and after the sales conversation. But your goal is to minimize all that. Every hour that your salespeople aren’t selling or doing sales-related activities, they aren’t moving revenue forward. The Ultimate Goal of Sales Ops What processes can you put in place that go 90 percent of the way, where the salesperson can do the last 10 percent? An example would be building an email campaign that runs automatically, and when the right people reply, the salesperson gets involved in getting that person from email to phone call. Another example would be your CRM serving up people for the salesperson to call – leads or anyone in the sales pipeline flow – with all the backstory, research, data, intel needed for them to review it then take action. What can you put into place that takes away as much distraction and effort from your sales team such that they can focus on the one thing you need to focus on – other humans?
By Jason Cutter February 12, 2025
The Danger of Doing Too Much as a Sales Leader Alright – so maybe they don’t need to go 90. In true servant leadership mode, you would go way more than 10% of the way to your team. But you have to be careful, as a sales leader. The inclination might be to do it all for them. To help them close their sales. To make excuses for them to your leadership as to why they aren’t closing more sales. Especially considering the very high likelihood that you are a sales manager because you were a great salesperson in the role that you are now managing. And there is a slight chance that you are a player-coach…so you are leading and selling. This can make it really tough not to want to run out on the field to win the game each time. But that doesn’t scale. That doesn’t lead to increased results. You can only sell so much as one person. Creating a Culture of Ownership So, you need to have people on your team that are coming to you. What does that look like? The pinnacle is a salesperson who doesn’t close a deal, comes to you right away and asks for feedback. They want some critiques as to where they could have done things better, different that would have led to the desired result – a closed sale. That takes a healthy level of ego by a professional who has the ultimate growth mindset. They know there are always ways to improve. They want to improve. And they are willing to risk their ego (and the internal, protective, primal part of our brain that doesn’t want to risk our place in the tribe) by asking for feedback that could be negative. Whenever you can, encourage that type of response. Ensure that the team knows that the team itself, and you as their leader, is a safe space – where the goal is to improve, grow, win and that everything done to support each other is done in that mode. They truly have to feel safe to share their mistakes and to get support in learning how to do more, better. Feedback That Drives Growth Part of this takes team and individual meetings that are actually filled with positive support. That doesn’t mean it’s always positive, motivational fluff. It’s not even about the shallow strategy of the feedback sandwich. Its about being real, honest, and empathetic – meaning “I see you are here, I know you want to be there, I will help you get there – even if its hard and it means saying hard things.” It should never feel mean or abusive or like an attack. But you can give some really direct feedback that will sting that ego I mentioned, but the person will know the intent behind it. The second part is hiring this type of person. Hiring people for the team that wants to win, grow, succeed. And they know that you don’t get better by being coddled, sheltered, or protected. You want people who don’t like the thought of perpetually living safely in their comfort zone. And they are excited about the opportunity to be a part of a team that pushes everyone, empathetically, outside of their comfort zone. Are You Leading or Just Managing? If you find yourself as a leader having to push your team, or going to them most of the time, or most of the way mentally – then they see you as a manager not a leader. They see you as someone who manages them, pushes them, and wants them to do things they don’t want to do. I have written some blogs here that go into what your role should be – as a leader, not a manager. Pulling people along with you, inspiring people, and supporting yourself with a team of people who want to win. Not just those that want to show up, do as little as they can and hopefully go unnoticed (yet – complain about not making enough money and how the comp plan isn’t fair, or the leads are bad, or their schedule means they can’t be successful.) Make sure your team knows that they need to come to you – at least 51/49. They should be asking for help, guidance, training, feedback, and support more than you are having to push it down onto them.
By Jason Cutter February 3, 2025
If you have seen the movie Hitch, then you know the scene. Will Smith’s character (Hitch) is trying to coach Kevin James’ character (Albert) on how to finish out his upcoming first date. He is giving him pointers, one being that if his date fumbles with her keys at the door, it could mean she wants a kiss. So Hitch wants to see if Albert knows what to do – for a good night kiss. Hitch gives him the advice “you go 90 percent, and then wait for her to go 10%” which Albert then asks “wait for how long?” Hitch: “as long as it takes.” Albert leads in, Hitch is holding back to see if Albert will wait, and then Albert goes all the way and gives him a kiss. Hitch gets upset, and says “You go 90, I go 10 – you don’t go the whole 100%.” The Sales Analogy Kissing our prospective customers is not acceptable (just ask HR!). But the concept is the same. You don’t want to ever make 100% of the effort for your prospective customers. You don’t want to be the one who is doing all the work. Fundamentally, it is not good practice to want the deal more than the other person. When you go your 90, you need to wait – as long as it takes – for the prospect to go to their 10. And I would say that you want to go somewhere between 10-49, in reality. How Successful Sales Professionals Balance Effort Successful sales professionals know how far they have to go to meet the prospect where they are, while also knowing how much effort the prospect needs to put in to show they are committed. Where most salespeople get in trouble is they get desperate. They want the sale (kiss) more than the other person and they go the full 100%. Of course, persistence is important. And you won’t get what you don’t ask for (although…if you have followed me for any length of time, you will know I am very against having to ask for the sale). But you also have to ensure that your prospects actually want what you are selling. And they want it for their reasons and their motivations. They are driven to pursue your production option(s). They must go 10, 40, 60% of the way to you. The Pitfall of Chasing Your Prospect Just like courtship and relationships – if you find yourself chasing and one-sided-pursing the other person then it means you want it more than they do. It also means they own you. You are essentially begging them for the relationship – convincing, manipulating, begging, bribing, persuading your way forward. Which means they consciously and/or subconsciously know that they are in control. Because if they say no, you will keep pursuing and offering solutions. In sales – that looks like a salesperson who is calling, emailing, stalking a prospect – making offers, offering discounts and trials, and trying to find any way to make deal work. They are going 90-100% of the way for the prospect, not requiring them to go anywhere towards the agreement. This will end terribly. If they do decide to buy – taking the discount, free trial, taking the sale bait – they will not be happy (since they weren’t bought in for their reasons), they will look for reasons confirming why they didn’t really want to buy anyway, and they will know that they own you. Your company will have to convince them on a regular basis to stay in the relationship. The Right Balance for Customer Ownership You fundamentally need that prospective customer to come to you. Not 100% where you are just an Order Taker. But potentially 51% of the way – so they want it more than you. The more you can get them across that 50/50 threshold, the more they will be a satisfied customer. But remember – at 51/49 – they still need persuading, they still need to understand the value of your product for where they ultimately want to be in their life/business, and they still need your support. They lean in the right amount, you lean in the right amount = sales magic!
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